Taking on the “Into The Wilderness” challenge is going to push you outside of the way the rest of the world operates. I often reference Romans 12 when it says, “Don’t copy the behavior and customs of this world, but let God transform you into a new person by changing the way you think.” We are to think, to act, and to live differently than the world does.
What’s a way that men can live differently from the world?
Institute “Screenless Sundays”.
We all spend WAY too much time on our phones, on computers, and in front of the T.V. We think we have to always be “connected” or we’ll miss out on something; the dreaded FOMO (fear of missing out). We can’t go more than an hour without mindlessly scrolling through social media or checking for likes. If you have an iPhone, go to Settings-Screen Time and take a gander and how much time you’re spending daily on your phone. The results will shock you. It’s not just phones either. Many of us spend eight hours a day staring at a computer screen at work. Then we come home and scroll through our phones while the 55 inch flat screen on the wall is blasting at us in 1080p. We KNOW we should put our phones down and turn off the screens more often and experience life around us, but we are addicted to them.
I’m calling on men to take a weekly day off from screens. Put down the phone for an entire day. It’ll be much harder than you think. If you must have it on for work or other necessities, keep the ringer on and set it down someplace that you can hear it but won’t be constantly looking at it. I have “on-call” hours at work myself and can’t completely turn my phone off. I often use the “Do Not Disturb” feature. You can silence all notifications except for calls and texts from certain people you choose. But if you’re able to, it’s best to just turn the damn thing off. Take the day off from the computer too. Emails can wait. Same with the T.V. Turn it off and read a book. Play a game with your kids. Go for a walk. If you’re taking the PornFree2020 challenge, it’s an added bonus of a full day away from any temptation to look at porn.
I began taking a Screenless Sunday a few months ago and it’s been amazing. I look forward to it every week. I have created great experiences with my family by being focused only on them, not on my phone. It also allows for some much needed peace and quiet. I take time to read my Bible or a good book.
Why Sundays you may ask? Because Sundays are a special day that were are already commanded to set aside as different from the other days of the week. It is a day that has been set aside as special from the beginning of time, literally. On the seventh day, “God had finished his work of creation, so he rested from all his work. And God blessed the seventh day and declared it holy, because it was the day when he rested from all his work of creation.” Taking a day of rest was even spelled out in the Ten Commandments given to Moses.
The world has increasingly diminished the importance of a Sabbath; a day of rest. Sundays are no longer held sacred. Sure, we might go to church, but that’s about it. How many other things do we cram into our weekends when we should be spending time with God and with family? Many kids sporting events are now held on Sundays. People spend their Sundays almost like a second Saturday doing chores, running errands, and going to all kinds of different events. Or we spend all Sunday “relaxing” watching football and pounding back beers.
I’m calling on men to fight against the behavior and customs of the world and spend the Sabbath as God intended it to be: a time of rest, refreshment, studying His Word, and spending time with those we love with the screens turned off.
“bUt i’lL MiSs tHe gAmE BrO!”
Grow up. Deal with it. Football isn’t God. Sure, you might not be able to chat with the boys around the watercooler on Monday. Who cares? You’re improving yourself as a man. You’re doing what a man is supposed to do and taking control of his life and his family. I’ll be doing a post on what I call the “Goddess of Sports” at another time.
Men, establish Screenless Sundays in your life. I promise your life will improve because of it. You’ll grow closer to God by honoring His Sabbath and spending more time in His Word, you’ll create awesome experiences with your family by giving them 100% of your attention, and you’ll find your mind less cluttered with the worries of this world. You’ll be, “transformed into a new person by changing the way you think.“
Start this Sunday, you won’t regret it.
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