Look at almost every great man throughout history and you’ll find a common thread among them.
They had a mentor.
Plato had Socrates, Abraham Lincoln had Henry Clay, even Michael Jordan had Phil Jackson.
We all need a mentor.
I was fortunate to have several men who came into my life and saw me for me, not for what my last name was, or what I did for a career, but for who I was on the inside and the potential they saw there.
They were willing to teach me, guide me, correct me, and encourage me.
A good mentor tears you down then builds you back up. He pushes you to be the best you can be. He gives you sound advice. He’s not afraid to call you out on your errors.
Your mentor can be a coach. He could be a boss. Many mentors are pastors or youth leaders at church.
We all need someone in our corner.
Your father can and certainly should be a mentor to you. But I believe it’s important to have an outside voice that can speak to you. I know in my own life, I often wouldn’t listen to my father, but when my mentor would tell me the same thing, I got the message. Sometimes we just don’t hear things as well from our fathers. Having a mentor gives us that independent voice and support to guide us on life’s path. If you don’t have a father or had a bad one, a mentor can become your surrogate father.
It’s critical in life to have someone who you can go to for advice and direction. When we don’t have all the answers, we should have that person we can rely on to give us an honest opinion. A good mentor will tell you what he thinks whether you like it or not.
In our battle with porn, it’s especially important to find a mentor. You need someone who knows what you’re going through, who knows the battlefield, and has found a path through the mines. He’ll warn you of situations to steer clear from, and advise you on what methods work to overcome addiction.
You won’t defeat porn addiction on your own. You need a guide, a coach, a mentor.
As important as it is to have a mentor, it’s just as important to be a mentor.
If someone mentored you and showed you how to be a better man, it’s your duty to pass that message on to those who come behind you. Use the lessons you’ve learned from your mentor to help other men.
Think you don’t have what it takes to be a mentor? Yes, you do. You don’t have to possess incredible insight or be inspiring with words. You just have to be you and pass on the lessons you’ve learned.
I never thought in a million years I would be a mentor to other men. I sure as hell never thought I’d be coaching men on how to overcome porn addiction. But God had different plans for me. There were men who helped me and mentored me through my addiction. They pushed me to be better, they kept me accountable and cheered me on. I never would have found freedom without them. God has now laid it upon my heart to do the same for other men who are fighting the same battle I did.
In your battle with addiction, or just for life in general, all men need a mentor, and all men need to be a mentor.
Great men don’t become great by chance.
They work hard, they never give up, and they all have someone who is there for them to support, instruct, and encourage.
To be a great man, find a mentor. To make more great men, be a mentor.
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