Cleaning Up My Own Mess

Throughout my addiction, I always tried to deflect blame for my actions.  I would blame my acting out on stress and anxiety.  I would blame my wife for the slightest errors and use them as justification for my actions.  I would blame God for making me this way.  I would blame society for being soContinue reading “Cleaning Up My Own Mess”

How To Restore Trust After Porn Addiction

One of the most damaging effects of porn addiction is the destruction of trust it causes in relationships. While I do not believe that Porn Addiction itself rises to the level of Adultery or Cheating, it does break the trust established and leads to feelings of betrayal.   Wives are often left feeling broken, hurt,Continue reading “How To Restore Trust After Porn Addiction”

Progress Over Perfection

There’s one phrase that I repeat over and over again to the men that I coach.   “Two steps forward, one step back, is still moving forward.” The point is that just because you might be falling short sometimes, doesn’t mean you aren’t making progress.   If you’re fighting, if you’re working hard, if you’re determined,Continue reading “Progress Over Perfection”

Is Adultery Forgivable?

Marriage and long term relationships always have their ups and downs.  Any one who has been in one for any length of time can tell you there will be actions you have to forgive the other partner for and you’re going to have to be willing to accept imperfections about them. But is there anythingContinue reading “Is Adultery Forgivable?”

The Lost Art of Deep Conversation

When was the last time you had a deep meaningful conversation with someone? If you can’t remember, that’s a problem. The majority of the conversations that men have are extremely shallow.  Many rarely ever go beyond the weather or sports. But men need conversation.  We need to connect with one another on a deeper level. Continue reading “The Lost Art of Deep Conversation”

Who Wears The Pants? 10 Ways Men Must Lead Their Families

Who “wears the pants” in your family? If the answer is not unquestionably you, you’re failing as a man.  Masculinity begets leadership.  Masculinity IS leadership.  Man was born to lead.  This is his purpose, his duty, and where he finds fulfillment.   Men, it is your job to lead your family.  It is not your wife’s. Continue reading “Who Wears The Pants? 10 Ways Men Must Lead Their Families”

5 Things You MUST Do To Quit Porn

Porn addiction is real. There’s no denying this. People may argue whether or not it’s moral, but you cannot argue that it has a devastating effect on society, young men in particular. According to Covenant Eyes, 63% of 18-30 year olds watch porn multiple times a week and 79% view porn at least once a month.Continue reading “5 Things You MUST Do To Quit Porn”

Is Masturbation Ok?

Hardly a day goes by when I do not receive a message or an email from someone asking something like this, “I have gone X days without watching porn, but I still masturbate regularly.  Is that ok?” Is masturbation without porn ok? Unfortunately, there isn’t really a simple yes or no answer to that question. Continue reading “Is Masturbation Ok?”

Join The PORN FREE 2021 Challenge

A new year is a time to reflect and a time to look ahead.  It’s a time when we set goals and try to make needed changes in our lives. Unfortunately, many times those changes don’t even last until February. So, this year, I’m not asking you to make a New Year’s resolution.  I’m askingContinue reading “Join The PORN FREE 2021 Challenge”

Covid, Porn, and Human Sex Trafficking – A Vicious Combination

This week I’m happy to have a guest post from Melanie Trammell-Wenger. Melanie is an advocate raising awareness about human sex trafficking. She is also co-worker of mine at my church where I serve as Worship Director. Covid never seems to disappoint in the ways it has wreaked havoc on our world this year. PornContinue reading “Covid, Porn, and Human Sex Trafficking – A Vicious Combination”