My Turning Point

When discussing my history with porn and sex addiction and my subsequent recovery, I’m often asked what my turning point was.   What was the catalyst to change? What made me finally turn my life around? I cannot say that it was a singular moment that sparked the change in my life from being addicted toContinue reading “My Turning Point”

Think Like A Gardener

Have you ever observed a gardener plant a garden? I don’t mean a vegetable or herb garden.  I mean a landscaped garden.  A peaceful place to walk and enjoy the beautiful wildlife. When a gardener plants trees, shrubs, and flowers, they have to think years ahead. If they only designed their gardens for what theyContinue reading “Think Like A Gardener”

What Kind of Father Are You?

What kind of father are you? Are you the kind of father who is present, engaged, teaching, disciplining and loving? Or are you the type of father who is absent, unstable, weak, and effeminate? Pope John XXIII wrote,  “It is easier for a father to have children than for children to have a real father.”Continue reading “What Kind of Father Are You?”

Failure Is Not An Option

My favorite movie is Apollo 13. I was about 10 when it came out and I was obsessed with NASA and space.  There’s a scene in the film where Flight Director, Gene Kranz, played by Ed Harris, is talking to his controllers about options for bringing the three astronauts safely home after their spaceship wasContinue reading “Failure Is Not An Option”

I Just Don’t Feel Like It

Some days, I just don’t think I have it in me.   Today was one of those days. My alarm went off at 6:00 a.m. this morning and I was NOT feeling it.   That bed felt so comfortable. I had been up late with meetings. It’s my weekend off.  Everything lined up to tell me, “TakeContinue reading “I Just Don’t Feel Like It”

That Hurts! How Healing Comes Through Embracing Pain.

What causes the worst pain in your life? I don’t necessarily mean physical pain as in stubbing your toe or breaking your arm. I mean what causes the most emotional pain? What are some things in your life that you have a hard time dealing with?  What are some things that you’re unwilling to faceContinue reading “That Hurts! How Healing Comes Through Embracing Pain.”

Why Am I Stuck?

How many times has this thought come to your mind, “Why do I keep doing this? I want to quit. I keep trying, but I keep messing up.  Why am I stuck?” This is a thought shared by almost every man who’s ever been addicted.  You’re trying so hard to defeat this enemy, yet youContinue reading “Why Am I Stuck?”

Winning The Small Battles

There’s an old adage that says, “Rome wasn’t built in a day.” The idea is that you can’t build something as great and mighty as ancient Rome quickly.  It takes time, effort, and patience to build something that is strong and lasting.   Too many men, in their battles with porn and sex addiction, try toContinue reading “Winning The Small Battles”

Make Yourself Uncomfortable

How comfortable are you right now? Are you lounging on the couch?  Lying in bed?  Sitting at your desk? I hope you aren’t driving while you read this.   Ask yourself, when was the last time you were uncomfortable.  I don’t mean when was the last time that tag on your t-shirt bothered you.  I meanContinue reading “Make Yourself Uncomfortable”

What To Do When Faced With A Trigger?

We’ve all been there. You’ll be doing great in you’re battle with porn and sex addiction.  You’re not spending too much time on your phone or computer.  You’re keeping grounded in prayer, Scripture, and meditation.  You’re checking in regularly with your support system and accountability partner. Them BAM! Something comes out of nowhere and allContinue reading “What To Do When Faced With A Trigger?”