What Do I Do If I Relapse?

So you “messed up”??? Feeling pretty terrible, I bet. Feel like you threw away all those days of success? Feel like you’re starting all over again? It’s normal to feel lousy after a relapse, but a relapse doesn’t have to turn into a disaster.  Relapses are inevitable.  They’re going to happen. No one has EVERContinue reading “What Do I Do If I Relapse?”

When Does A Boy Become A Man?

When does a boy become a man? What is done in modern society to signify the passage from boyhood to manhood? Your first beer? Losing your V-card? Getting a driver’s license?  No longer do older men take a younger man under their tutelage and show them how to be a man.  We are taught howContinue reading “When Does A Boy Become A Man?”

The New Drug Epidemic

We have a major drug epidemic in the world right now. No, it’s not opioids. (Although this is a major problem) It’s not crack It’s not meth It’s not weed.  In fact, you can’t even buy this drug on the streets.   Why?  Because you produce it inside your own body.  It is Dopamine. The worldContinue reading “The New Drug Epidemic”

I Just Don’t Have Time

How often do you catch yourself saying, “I just don’t have time” or “I really wish I had more time”? Here’s some hard truth for you. You have the time, you just waste it. We all want time to learn a new skill, exercise, relax, spend time with our families, etc.  Yet how much timeContinue reading “I Just Don’t Have Time”

My Turning Point

When discussing my history with porn and sex addiction and my subsequent recovery, I’m often asked what my turning point was.   What was the catalyst to change? What made me finally turn my life around? I cannot say that it was a singular moment that sparked the change in my life from being addicted toContinue reading “My Turning Point”

Think Like A Gardener

Have you ever observed a gardener plant a garden? I don’t mean a vegetable or herb garden.  I mean a landscaped garden.  A peaceful place to walk and enjoy the beautiful wildlife. When a gardener plants trees, shrubs, and flowers, they have to think years ahead. If they only designed their gardens for what theyContinue reading “Think Like A Gardener”

What Kind of Father Are You?

What kind of father are you? Are you the kind of father who is present, engaged, teaching, disciplining and loving? Or are you the type of father who is absent, unstable, weak, and effeminate? Pope John XXIII wrote,  “It is easier for a father to have children than for children to have a real father.”Continue reading “What Kind of Father Are You?”

Failure Is Not An Option

My favorite movie is Apollo 13. I was about 10 when it came out and I was obsessed with NASA and space.  There’s a scene in the film where Flight Director, Gene Kranz, played by Ed Harris, is talking to his controllers about options for bringing the three astronauts safely home after their spaceship wasContinue reading “Failure Is Not An Option”

I Just Don’t Feel Like It

Some days, I just don’t think I have it in me.   Today was one of those days. My alarm went off at 6:00 a.m. this morning and I was NOT feeling it.   That bed felt so comfortable. I had been up late with meetings. It’s my weekend off.  Everything lined up to tell me, “TakeContinue reading “I Just Don’t Feel Like It”

That Hurts! How Healing Comes Through Embracing Pain.

What causes the worst pain in your life? I don’t necessarily mean physical pain as in stubbing your toe or breaking your arm. I mean what causes the most emotional pain? What are some things in your life that you have a hard time dealing with?  What are some things that you’re unwilling to faceContinue reading “That Hurts! How Healing Comes Through Embracing Pain.”