Do You Have Perseverance?

Do you have perseverance? Do you have what it takes to keep going no matter how hard, how far, or how painful? The sad news is that many men today are mentally weak.  Far too often, men give up at the first sign of difficulty.  Instead of fighting through the hardship, they surrender and admitContinue reading “Do You Have Perseverance?”

Progress Over Perfection

There’s one phrase that I repeat over and over again to the men that I coach.   “Two steps forward, one step back, is still moving forward.” The point is that just because you might be falling short sometimes, doesn’t mean you aren’t making progress.   If you’re fighting, if you’re working hard, if you’re determined,Continue reading “Progress Over Perfection”

Don’t Be A Frog In Water

There’s a lab experiment often told, where a frog is placed in water heating at the rate of .0036 of a degree Fahrenheit per second and, although it never moves, at the end of two and a half hours, the frog is found to be dead.  The explanation is that the water is heated soContinue reading “Don’t Be A Frog In Water”

Embrace, Not Escape, Your Weakness

There’s an old saying, “You’re only as strong as your greatest weakness.”   But what if you could turn your greatest weakness into your greatest strength? What if you could use the things you struggle with the most to actually better your life? What if, to paraphrase Joseph in Genesis 50, you could take what wasContinue reading “Embrace, Not Escape, Your Weakness”

NOW AVAILABLE! Living Porn Free: 10 Steps to Recovery, Redemption, and Renewal

It has never been easy for me to open up about my battle with pornography addiction. I hid it for years and was ashamed to let anyone know what was going on in my secret life. However, God had different plans for me. I was hesitant, but every time I obeyed and shared my story,Continue reading “NOW AVAILABLE! Living Porn Free: 10 Steps to Recovery, Redemption, and Renewal”

Are You a Man, or a Man-Child?

In today’s world, it seems like there are fewer and fewer true men and more and more man-children. What do I mean by a man-child? A man-child is someone who is an adult by age, but not in maturity.  He could be 25, 30, or even 40 years old.  He could be married, have children,Continue reading “Are You a Man, or a Man-Child?”

Why Is Porn Dangerous?

My mission is to help men fight and defeat porn and sex addiction.  As you might imagine, this opens me up to a lot of comments from people, especially on Twitter. One of the most common responses I get is, “What’s wrong with porn?  It doesn’t hurt anyone.” Does it? If you have struggled atContinue reading “Why Is Porn Dangerous?”

How To Avoid Addiction Substitution

If you’ve followed my writings for any length of time, you know how often I warn of the dangers of porn addiction. Porn is a cancer that is destroying men from the inside out.  I’ve dedicated my ministry to using my story of addiction and recovery to help other men find freedom from the bondageContinue reading “How To Avoid Addiction Substitution”

What Do I Do If I Relapse?

So you “messed up”??? Feeling pretty terrible, I bet. Feel like you threw away all those days of success? Feel like you’re starting all over again? It’s normal to feel lousy after a relapse, but a relapse doesn’t have to turn into a disaster.  Relapses are inevitable.  They’re going to happen. No one has EVERContinue reading “What Do I Do If I Relapse?”

My Turning Point

When discussing my history with porn and sex addiction and my subsequent recovery, I’m often asked what my turning point was.   What was the catalyst to change? What made me finally turn my life around? I cannot say that it was a singular moment that sparked the change in my life from being addicted toContinue reading “My Turning Point”