Are You a Man, or a Man-Child?

In today’s world, it seems like there are fewer and fewer true men and more and more man-children. What do I mean by a man-child? A man-child is someone who is an adult by age, but not in maturity.  He could be 25, 30, or even 40 years old.  He could be married, have children,Continue reading “Are You a Man, or a Man-Child?”

Why Is Porn Dangerous?

My mission is to help men fight and defeat porn and sex addiction.  As you might imagine, this opens me up to a lot of comments from people, especially on Twitter. One of the most common responses I get is, “What’s wrong with porn?  It doesn’t hurt anyone.” Does it? If you have struggled atContinue reading “Why Is Porn Dangerous?”

How To Avoid Addiction Substitution

If you’ve followed my writings for any length of time, you know how often I warn of the dangers of porn addiction. Porn is a cancer that is destroying men from the inside out.  I’ve dedicated my ministry to using my story of addiction and recovery to help other men find freedom from the bondageContinue reading “How To Avoid Addiction Substitution”

What Do I Do If I Relapse?

So you “messed up”??? Feeling pretty terrible, I bet. Feel like you threw away all those days of success? Feel like you’re starting all over again? It’s normal to feel lousy after a relapse, but a relapse doesn’t have to turn into a disaster.  Relapses are inevitable.  They’re going to happen. No one has EVERContinue reading “What Do I Do If I Relapse?”

My Turning Point

When discussing my history with porn and sex addiction and my subsequent recovery, I’m often asked what my turning point was.   What was the catalyst to change? What made me finally turn my life around? I cannot say that it was a singular moment that sparked the change in my life from being addicted toContinue reading “My Turning Point”

Masturbation and Lust

I’m excited to have a guest post from Hugh Houston, pastor and author of Jesus Is Better Than Porn. Pornography and masturbation almost always walk hand in hand.  This was a huge problem for me.  I know many people have strong feelings on this subject. It is a controversial subject, even among Christians.  As IContinue reading “Masturbation and Lust”

That Hurts! How Healing Comes Through Embracing Pain.

What causes the worst pain in your life? I don’t necessarily mean physical pain as in stubbing your toe or breaking your arm. I mean what causes the most emotional pain? What are some things in your life that you have a hard time dealing with?  What are some things that you’re unwilling to faceContinue reading “That Hurts! How Healing Comes Through Embracing Pain.”

Winning The Small Battles

There’s an old adage that says, “Rome wasn’t built in a day.” The idea is that you can’t build something as great and mighty as ancient Rome quickly.  It takes time, effort, and patience to build something that is strong and lasting.   Too many men, in their battles with porn and sex addiction, try toContinue reading “Winning The Small Battles”

Beware Your Dark Side

If a kingdom is divided against itself, that kingdom cannot stand – Mark 3:24 Are you where you want to be in life? How many of us reach the ages of 30, 40, or 50 and have accomplished even half of what we thought we would? As children, we all imagine ourselves changing the worldContinue reading “Beware Your Dark Side”

The Spirit Is Willing, But The Flesh Is Weak

“Watch and pray so that you will not fall into temptation. The spirit is willing, but the flesh is weak.” – Matthew 26:41 Ever been in the situation where you know what the right thing is to do, yet you’re pulled to do the opposite? On the night he was betrayed, Jesus and his disciplesContinue reading “The Spirit Is Willing, But The Flesh Is Weak”