Are You a Man, or a Man-Child?

In today’s world, it seems like there are fewer and fewer true men and more and more man-children. What do I mean by a man-child? A man-child is someone who is an adult by age, but not in maturity.  He could be 25, 30, or even 40 years old.  He could be married, have children,Continue reading “Are You a Man, or a Man-Child?”

When Does A Boy Become A Man?

When does a boy become a man? What is done in modern society to signify the passage from boyhood to manhood? Your first beer? Losing your V-card? Getting a driver’s license?  No longer do older men take a younger man under their tutelage and show them how to be a man.  We are taught howContinue reading “When Does A Boy Become A Man?”

My Turning Point

When discussing my history with porn and sex addiction and my subsequent recovery, I’m often asked what my turning point was.   What was the catalyst to change? What made me finally turn my life around? I cannot say that it was a singular moment that sparked the change in my life from being addicted toContinue reading “My Turning Point”

What Kind of Father Are You?

What kind of father are you? Are you the kind of father who is present, engaged, teaching, disciplining and loving? Or are you the type of father who is absent, unstable, weak, and effeminate? Pope John XXIII wrote,  “It is easier for a father to have children than for children to have a real father.”Continue reading “What Kind of Father Are You?”

Masturbation and Lust

I’m excited to have a guest post from Hugh Houston, pastor and author of Jesus Is Better Than Porn. Pornography and masturbation almost always walk hand in hand.  This was a huge problem for me.  I know many people have strong feelings on this subject. It is a controversial subject, even among Christians.  As IContinue reading “Masturbation and Lust”

I Just Don’t Feel Like It

Some days, I just don’t think I have it in me.   Today was one of those days. My alarm went off at 6:00 a.m. this morning and I was NOT feeling it.   That bed felt so comfortable. I had been up late with meetings. It’s my weekend off.  Everything lined up to tell me, “TakeContinue reading “I Just Don’t Feel Like It”

That Hurts! How Healing Comes Through Embracing Pain.

What causes the worst pain in your life? I don’t necessarily mean physical pain as in stubbing your toe or breaking your arm. I mean what causes the most emotional pain? What are some things in your life that you have a hard time dealing with?  What are some things that you’re unwilling to faceContinue reading “That Hurts! How Healing Comes Through Embracing Pain.”

Why Am I Stuck?

How many times has this thought come to your mind, “Why do I keep doing this? I want to quit. I keep trying, but I keep messing up.  Why am I stuck?” This is a thought shared by almost every man who’s ever been addicted.  You’re trying so hard to defeat this enemy, yet youContinue reading “Why Am I Stuck?”

Winning The Small Battles

There’s an old adage that says, “Rome wasn’t built in a day.” The idea is that you can’t build something as great and mighty as ancient Rome quickly.  It takes time, effort, and patience to build something that is strong and lasting.   Too many men, in their battles with porn and sex addiction, try toContinue reading “Winning The Small Battles”

Make Yourself Uncomfortable

How comfortable are you right now? Are you lounging on the couch?  Lying in bed?  Sitting at your desk? I hope you aren’t driving while you read this.   Ask yourself, when was the last time you were uncomfortable.  I don’t mean when was the last time that tag on your t-shirt bothered you.  I meanContinue reading “Make Yourself Uncomfortable”