In overcoming my own 15+ year battle with porn and addiction, and in helping dozens of other men finally quit porn, I’ve learned quite a bit about what works and what doesn’t work when you’re trying to quit porn.
Here’s some DO’s and DON’Ts for quitting porn.
DO: Establish Routine
Routine is crucial to quitting porn. You can’t just assume you’re not going to be tempted or that you’ll be able to resist it when it happens.
Examine the times you’re most tempted, then build a rock solid to routine to avoid any triggers and stick to it religiously.
Routine will help you stay on track and keep you from falling into temptation
DO NOT: Believe The Lies
Porn will lie to you.
It will say “it’s normal”
“Everyone does it”
“No one gets hurt”
“You deserve this”
Don’t fall for it.
You’ll even try to convince yourself that it’s ok. You’ll do all kinds of mental gymnastics to try to justify watching porn. Stand firm and don’t fall for the lies.
DO: Get Off Your Devices
Not all device addictions are porn addictions, but all porn addictions are device addictions.
You’ll never quit porn if you’re constantly on your phone craving the next dopamine hit.
It’s so easy to just be scrolling social media, then out of nowhere you see a hot girl on instagram, then before you know it, you’ve jumped to porn.
Put it away or turn it off, especially right before bed.
Before bed is often the most vulnerable time for men. Make sure to stay off devices and stick to a strong routine when you’re winding down for the night.
DO NOT: Allow Mindless Downtime
You can’t allow yourself to be bored and scrolling.
You’ll get in trouble every time.
It’s ok to have some R&R, but make sure it’s structured so that you avoid falling into the trap of boredom and temptation.
Schedule out your days in advance. Don’t allow yourself to have time where you know it’ll be easy for you to look at porn. Build your schedule and set boundaries to make sure those weak spots are covered.
DO: Stay Active
Get your ass moving.
Not only will working out get you in better shape, it will help improve your mood and cure depression, which are major triggers for porn.
If you’re tempted to watch porn, go start slinging some iron.
You’ll feel better in no time.
DO NOT: Cut Corners
You might think, “I’m doing ok, I can skip journaling tonight”
One day becomes two, two becomes four, then a week.
Before you know it you’ve skipped all your routines, you probably relapsed, and you’re right back where you started.
You have to be especially diligent when fighting this battle. It can sneak up on you when you least expect it, and if you let your guard down, you WILL be under attack.
Don’t let temptation get a foothold.
DO: Learn WHY You’re Addicted
Until you figure out the root cause of your addiction, you’ll never find true healing.
Do the deep inner emotional work to discover WHY you run away to Porn.
What pain are you trying to escape?
What are you using Porn to cope with?
This is where the true healing happens.
I say all the time, “Porn addiction isn’t about pleasure, it’s about pain.”
Find out WHY you’re addicted to porn, treat the true wound, and learn healthy ways to cope with it.
DO NOT: Treat Porn Like a Bad Habit
Porn Addiction is so much more than a bad habit.
This is why you can’t get past two weeks without it. You’re just trying to “try harder” and you always end up slipping up.
Sure there’s habitual parts of addiction, but it’s not just a bad habit. It’s a bad coping mechanism.
Porn Addiction is not a habit to break, it’s a wound to heal.
Go deep and fix it from the inside out.
DO: Confess Your Addiction
You need to tell someone.
If you’re married, you need to confess or your marriage will never truly recover.
Married or not, you need to open up and share your struggles with someone.
You can’t suffer in silence.
You need to be honest about your addiction, not only with yourself, but with someone you trust.
TALK to someone.
DO NOT: Fight The Battle Alone.
You NEED accountability.
You NEED someone to help you, support you, guide you, and encourage you.
You CAN NOT quit porn alone.
Find a brother, a mentor, or a coach to help you fight the battle.
I NEVER would have overcome my addiction without help.
Neither will you.
It’s time you got the help you need and finally quit porn for good.
Through 1:1 coaching with me, I’ll guide you through the wilderness to find your path to freedom from porn.
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