God Wants Men To Do These 5 Things

There are 100’s of passages of Scripture on the role of men in the church, family and society.

But there’s only ONE passage that sums it all up.

“Be watchful, stand firm in the faith, act like men, be strong. Let all that you do be done in love.”

1 Corinthians 16:13-14

While other passages certainly go in to more detail, none other comes close to encompassing what God designed our duties to be as Christian men.

In these verses, God, through the Apostle Paul, gives 5 commands.

Let’s break them down one by one…

1.  BE WATCHFUL

Some versions translate it as, “Be on guard” or “Be alert!”.

1 Peter tells us that the devil is “prowling around like a roaring lion, looking for someone to devour.“

Our role as man is a protector.  We must stay vigilant to the work of the enemy.  Satan will try to trip us up at every opportunity.  He easily seduced Eve in the garden, and tried to tempt Jesus in in the Wilderness.

We must stay on guard against temptation.  We cannot let our defenses down or he will find opportunities to undermine us from within.

But it is not our duty to only be on guard against the enemy leading us to sin, it’s our job to be watchful for those God has put under our care as well.

God put MAN as the head of the household and as the leaders of the Church.

Men must stay watchful to protect their families from outside influence and temptation.

We must protect the church from those who wish to undermine it from within.

To be on Guard is our duty as men.

2.  STAND FIRM IN THE FAITH

Not only must we be watchful and protect ourselves and our families from evil, we must stand firm when those attacks come.

…and they WILL come.

When society around us gives way to debauchery and sin,

When our schools want to indoctrinate our children,

When the world wants to cancel you for your beliefs….

It is then that men must stand firm on the doctrines of our faith.

When even the church gives in to pressure and allows itself to water down the gospel and allow woke, feminist, and LGBT ideas to come into it’s walls in the sake of “love”…

It is our duty to stand fast in the truth of the Scriptures.

3. ACT LIKE MEN

God wants men to be… ya know..  MEN!

He doesn’t want weak, effeminate, harmless men.

He wants men who will be Soldiers for the Kingdom, Warriors for the Gospel, and Fighters for the Faithful.

Some versions translate this command as “Be Courageous.”

Being a man is synonymous with courage.

Christian must be brave, courageous, and face fear with the confidence our faith.

4. BE STRONG

God told Joshua to “Be strong and courageous…for the Lord your God is with you wherever you go.”

Men need to be strong.  

Men, husbands, fathers, and leaders cannot afford to be weak and spineless.

Too many Christian men today are weak.

They’re weak physically.   Obesity is rampant in the church.  They’re weak mentally and give up at the slightest pressure. They’re weak emotionally and have no place to learn how to handle feelings and emotions.

God wants men to be strong.

He wants physically strong men who can protect their families, and honor their bodies made in His image.  He wants mentally strong men who keep fighting when the battle is hard. He wants emotionally strong men who can be caring fathers and husbands.

5. LET ALL THAT YOU DO BE DONE IN LOVE

God wants men to be warriors for His kingdom, but he also wants men to do all in love.

A man who is incapable of violence is not peaceful, he’s harmless.

But a true Biblical man is one who is capable of violence yet chooses peace.

The word “love” is probably the most misused word in the modern church.

Love today means to just accept everyone and their sin and all you need is to just love everybody and all will be well and happy and good.

That’s not love in the Bible.

Sometimes love is calling out a brother for his sin.

Sometimes love is standing up for the truth.

Sometimes love is telling somewhat what they need to hear, not what they want to hear.

Christ IS Love.

Men are to love their wives and families as Christ loves His Church.

That means being loving, caring, and gentle.  But it also means leading, guiding, encouraging, and disciplining.

Men must show love in all they do.

There are many other commands and duties of men that God outlines in the Bible.  

Yet these five commands in 1st Corinthians are great guidelines for how men should live their lives.

1. Be Watchful

2. Stand Firm In The Faith

3. Act Like Men

4. Be Strong

5. Do All In Love.

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THIS… Is The Most Ignored Sin

What is the one sin that is most ignored by Christians today???

It’s not Porn

It’s not Sex

It’s not Alcohol

It’s not Lying or Greed or Envy

This is SO common in the church, not only do they ignore it, they glorify it!

I’m speaking of Obesity.

Look around your church this Sunday. Do you see healthy, in shape people?  Or do you see many more overweight, obese people struggling even to make up the stairs into the church?

Obesity is rampant in America.  It’s killing people, destroying health, and leading to depression and anxiety. Yet churches continue to turn a blind eye.

Obesity was the #1 contributing factor to deaths from COVID.  Churches across the country shut down for months, sometimes years, over COVID “for the health of their members”.  (That was a sin in itself) But they do nothing against the real pandemic, obesity, amongst their congregations that’s killing their members every day. Just the opposite, they flaunt it.  

I recently saw a local church that had a hot chocolate bar and had hundreds of cakes, pastries, and other “treats” filled with sugar there for the taking. They were just tempting people to give in to self indulgence. They even advertised it all over social media!

Imagine if a church put small bottles of booze out on their foyer tables? Or put porno mags out for the taking?  Would the comments be the same?

“It’s ok to be a little naughty today”

“I know I shouldn’t but just one won’t hurt”.

Churches talk about not putting a stumbling block in the way of your brother. (Romans 14) What about the brother trying to lose weight? What about the brother who’s diabetic?

You wouldn’t put alcohol out there if a brother was trying to stay sober. You wouldn’t have packs of cigarettes on a huge table in the foyer for a brother trying to quit.

Why does every church event have to revolve around food?  It sure isn’t about “breaking bread”. 

It’s more about bribing people to come with coffee and doughnuts.

I’m not saying there shouldn’t be hospitality or that it’s wrong to have some refreshments at church.  Not at all.

I’m saying that we’ve gone away from simply having something to eat and gone into glorifying and accepting gluttony, self-indulgence, and obesity.

Where are the church events that promote a healthy body?

Where are the church events that involve fitness?

Where are the church events that have healthy foods?

Instead, it’s all about the quick, easy, sugar filled snacks every time you walk in the door.  

The church is so quick to call smoking or drinking a sin because it’s damaging to your body, the temple, but says nothing about stuffing your face with horrible food. 

The modern church needs to take a good hard look at itself and admit that it is leading its flock into the sin of gluttony and self indulgence. 

You may say, is it really that big of a deal???  

Yes!

Our bodies are made in the image of God. 

Your body is a temple.

“Whether you eat or drink, or whatever you do, do all to the glory of God.” 

-1 Cor 10:13

Do we glorify God when we allow ourselves to destroy the bodies he gave us from within?

Absolutely not. 

So what can you do about it?  

  1. Build a healthy body yourself that honors God and is strong and ready to do His work.
  1. Encourage your brothers and sisters in the faith to be healthy.  Get a group together and do a fitness challenge.  Right now I’m doing a challenge with a bunch of Christian men who are all doing 100 pushups a day for 31 days!
  2. BE the change in your church.  Lead by example and encourage healthy habits. Instead of bringing cookies and donuts to every church event, bring something healthier.  Organize a church group to run a 5k.  Create a bible study where you work out together. 

We are to honor God in ALL we do.  That includes our bodies.

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The DOs and DON’Ts of Battling Porn Addiction

In overcoming my own 15+ year battle with porn and addiction, and in helping dozens of other men finally quit porn, I’ve learned quite a bit about what works and what doesn’t work when you’re trying to quit porn.

Here’s some DO’s and DON’Ts for quitting porn. 

DO:  Establish Routine

Routine is crucial to quitting porn.  You can’t just assume you’re not going to be tempted or that you’ll be able to resist it when it happens.  

Examine the times you’re most tempted, then build a rock solid to routine to avoid any triggers and stick to it religiously.

Routine will help you stay on track and keep you from falling into temptation

DO NOT:  Believe The Lies

Porn will lie to you. 

It will say “it’s normal”

“Everyone does it”

“No one gets hurt”

“You deserve this”

Don’t fall for it.   

You’ll even try to convince yourself that it’s ok.  You’ll do all kinds of mental gymnastics to try to justify watching porn.   Stand firm and don’t fall for the lies.

DO:  Get Off Your Devices

Not all device addictions are porn addictions, but all porn addictions are device addictions.

You’ll never quit porn if you’re constantly on your phone craving the next dopamine hit.

It’s so easy to just be scrolling social media, then out of nowhere you see a hot girl on instagram, then before you know it, you’ve jumped to porn.

Put it away or turn it off, especially right before bed.  

Before bed is often the most vulnerable time for men.  Make sure to stay off devices and stick to a strong routine when you’re winding down for the night.

DO NOT:   Allow Mindless Downtime

You can’t allow yourself to be bored and scrolling.  

You’ll get in trouble every time.

It’s ok to have some R&R, but make sure it’s structured so that you avoid falling into the trap of boredom and temptation.

Schedule out your days in advance.  Don’t allow yourself to have time where you know it’ll be easy for you to look at porn.  Build your schedule and set boundaries to make sure those weak spots are covered.

DO:  Stay Active

Get your ass moving.

Not only will working out get you in better shape, it will help improve your mood and cure depression, which are major triggers for porn.

If you’re tempted to watch porn, go start slinging some iron.

You’ll feel better in no time.

DO NOT:  Cut Corners

You might think, “I’m doing ok, I can skip journaling tonight”

One day becomes two, two becomes four, then a week.

Before you know it you’ve skipped all your routines, you probably relapsed, and you’re right back where you started.

You have to be especially diligent when fighting this battle.  It can sneak up on you when you least expect it, and if you let your guard down, you WILL be under attack.

Don’t let temptation get a foothold.

DO:  Learn WHY You’re Addicted

Until you figure out the root cause of your addiction, you’ll never find true healing.

Do the deep inner emotional work to discover WHY you run away to Porn.

What pain are you trying to escape?

What are you using Porn to cope with?

This is where the true healing happens.  

I say all the time, “Porn addiction isn’t about pleasure, it’s about pain.”

Find out WHY you’re addicted to porn, treat the true wound, and learn healthy ways to cope with it.

DO NOT:  Treat Porn Like a Bad Habit

Porn Addiction is so much more than a bad habit.

This is why you can’t get past two weeks without it.  You’re just trying to “try harder” and you always end up slipping up.  

Sure there’s habitual parts of addiction, but it’s not just a bad habit.  It’s a bad coping mechanism.  

Porn Addiction is not a habit to break,  it’s a wound to heal.

Go deep and fix it from the inside out.

DO:  Confess Your Addiction

You need to tell someone.

If you’re married, you need to confess or your marriage will never truly recover.

Married or not, you need to open up and share your struggles with someone.

You can’t suffer in silence.  

You need to be honest about your addiction, not only with yourself, but with someone you trust.

TALK  to someone.

DO NOT:  Fight The Battle Alone.

You NEED accountability.

You NEED someone to help you, support you, guide you, and encourage you.

You CAN NOT quit porn alone.

Find a brother, a mentor, or a coach to help you fight the battle.

I NEVER would have overcome my addiction without help.

Neither will you.

It’s time you got the help you need and finally quit porn for good.

Through 1:1 coaching with me, I’ll guide you through the wilderness to find your path to freedom from porn.

If you’re sick of struggling…

If you’re tired of relapsing…

If you’re ready to finally LIVE PORN FREE..

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Stop Touching Yourself!

Alright guys.  It’s time for a tough talk.  

The real problem with Porn Addiction isn’t Porn.

It’s Masturbation.

STOP TOUCHING YOURSELF!

When you’re addicted to Porn/Masturbation/Orgasm (PMO), what you’re really addicted to is dopamine. There is nothing inherently addictive about porn itself.  It’s not a drug.  it’s not a chemical.  It has no addictive qualities in and of itself.  But watching it does.

Dopamine is a neurotransmitter released in your brain you feel pleasure. It’s what makes you “feel” pleasure in the first place.  Dopamine is released by the truckload when you PMO.  However, there is way more dopamine released upon orgasm than there is upon only viewing porn. 

I’ve coached and worked with dozens and dozens of men.  MAYBE 1 or 2 admitted to watching porn without the physical act of masturbating.  Almost every man I’ve worked with masturbated when they watched porn.

Most men aren’t addicted to porn. They’re addicted to masturbating.

Men are addicted to the feeling of pleasure released at orgasm.  That drive for that feeling is an inherent part of masculinity.  It’s the drive to procreate and extend your bloodline.  That feeling is the reward for being the provider, protector, and procreator.

Masturbation is a shortcut to that reward.  Instead of being a man and achieving that reward by achieving peak masculinity and finding a woman who desires you, you shortchange it by jerking off.

I get it.  It’s easy.  It feels good.  

But you’re not accomplishing anything.   You’re escaping.  

When I coach men, I ask them why they watch porn and masturbate.  These are normal answers I receive:

-Stress
-Anxiety
-Work
-Unhappy with life
-Marriage sucks

By admission, they use PMO to escape their problems.  

Now you know me, I’m about the biggest advocate against porn there is.  But quitting porn is only solving half the problem. 

If you quit watching porn, but you’re still masturbating regularly…

YOU’RE STILL ADDICTED!

You didn’t solve anything.   You just feel a little bit better about yourself because you’re not watching porn.   But in reality, you’re still running away from your problems just like you did when you were watching porn.

The escapism is the same.

The stress release is the same.

The cheap dopamine is the same.

You’ve just removed the major stimulus.  But you’re still addicted to running away.

Now, I won’t deny that masturbation without porn has its benefits.  At least you’re not watching porn.  Right?

True. I’d much rather have a client rub one out quick to release the tension rather than go on a three day porn/masturbation binge.  But it’s not a solution.

It still isn’t solving the underlying problem of WHY you’re addicted in the first place.  It doesn’t explain what you’re running away from.  It doesn’t heal the fill the void you’re trying to fill.  

If you truly want to overcome your addiction,  you have to quit masturbating just as much as you have to quit watching porn.  Quitting porn is actually the easier part.  Not using masturbation to get a cheap shot of dopamine so you “feel better” instead of facing your negative emotions, is a hell of a lot harder.

I see too many people who say they’ll help you quit porn addiction say, “I’ll help you quit porn in ____ days, and you don’t have to NoFap”

Hell, it doesn’t sound like a bad deal.  But it’s not really helping you.

I’m not working with men through one-on-one coaching just to help them quit watching porn.  I’m working with them to HEAL from addiction.

Recovery from addiction is not about breaking bad habits, it’s about healing old wounds.  

If you truly want to overcome porn addiction, masturbation addiction, and sexual addiction, you have to do the deep emotional work of healing what led you there in the first place.

This deep work is hard.

That’s WHY I’m a coach.

You can’t work through all that pain on your own.

I couldn’t.

I needed someone to come alongside me and guide me on my path to freedom.

I needed encouragement, advice, and accountability.

So, if you’re ready to HEAL from porn and masturbation, not just QUIT…

Schedule your first coaching call with me and let’s get started.

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Why try to find your own path through the darkness?  I’ve been through it.  Let me guide you through.

I’ll provide the accountability you need to finally quit porn.  I’ll show you the steps to living porn free.  I’ll encourage and support you every day to keep fighting for freedom. 

I’ve helped hundreds of men quit porn for good.  

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When To Talk To Your Kid About Porn

One of the most common questions I get is, “At what age should I talk to my son about porn?”

The fact that you’re even willing to talk about it at all is itself a step in the right direction.  This is an essential conversation that must take place.  The question is WHEN?

I believe the most important time to talk to your kids about porn is BEFORE they’ve been exposed to it.  You need to instill your values and explain to them the dangers of porn before it gets it’s evil hooks in them.  

To do this, we need to know at what age most men are first exposed to pornography.

I ran a poll on twitter asking at what age people were first exposed to porn.  

The results are scary.  

This means that 2/3 of people first viewed porn PRIOR to becoming a teenager.   And 90% were exposed before turning 17.  

This is sad.  

But it’s not surprising.  Many of the men I have coached told me they were exposed at a very young age; some as young as 8!  

Children are given access to, or worse, someone is showing them porn before they even know what sex is!   They don’t have the physical or emotional maturity to understand.  

You cannot hesitate to talk to our kids about porn.  

Because if you don’t, someone else will.  Do you want your child’s first exposure to sexuality be from their phone?  Or from a friend? Or in worst cases, a predator?   

Hell no!  Your children must learn about sex from YOU.  It is your duty as a parent to talk to them about sex. 

I know it seems too early.  I know you don’t think they’re old enough.  But the world is a much different place than it was when you were their age.  You may not have had to worry about sexual stuff until you were a teenager.  Those days are long gone.  This poll proves it.  

So at what age should I talk to my kid about sex and porn?  

I always say that whatever age you think is too soon to talk to your kid about porn, talk to them two years before that.  

In all honesty, the proper age is going to depend on your own kid and your relationship with them.  You can’t just drop this sort of thing on them out of nowhere without already having an open and honest relationship. Your first heart to heart with your children should not be the “birds and the bees” talk.  

Pastor Michael Foster, author of It’s Good To Be A Man, writes:

“The battle against pornography begins long before high school.  It begins with not giving in to demands of pre-dinner popsicles, bedtime protests, and ignored curfews. It starts with the loving discipline of your child while he’s still in diapers. There’s a reason Proverbs 13:24 says, “He who withholds his rod hates his son, but he who loves him disciplines him diligently.” Discipline will help spare your son from being enslaved to all sorts of evil—including gluttony, fornication, and mountains of credit card debt. The permissive parent does not love his children. He allows his progeny to drink the slow poison of immediate gratification simply because he’s too busy, or just wants to be a cool parent. Do not be this parent. Spare your children.”

Porn addiction is not a sexual issue.  It’s an emotional issue, a spiritual issue, and a mental issue.   Overcoming it depends on healing those issues at the root, instead of using porn to “escape” from them.    Preventing porn addiction depends on teaching your children healthy ways of handling their emotions, dealing with their desires, and coping with life before they learn to sexualize those problems through porn.  

Ending the Porn epidemic is not going to come from banning PornHub or canceling people.  It’s not going to come from making access to it more difficult.  

The Porn industry will die when fathers rise up, defeat porn themselves, then teach their sons how to avoid it’s dangers.

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Why try to find your own path through the darkness?  I’ve been through it.  Let me guide you through.

I’ll provide the accountability you need to finally quit porn.  I’ll show you the steps to living porn free.  I’ll encourage and support you every day to keep fighting for freedom. 

I’ve helped hundreds of men quit porn for good.  

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How To Confess Your Porn Addiction

So, you have come to the realization that porn and sex addiction is a problem in your life.  Maybe you’ve even started working with a coach to help guide you through the process of breaking free.  

What’s next?

One of the hardest parts of recovery, but arguably the most necessary is confession.

Healing requires confession. 

You cannot defeat porn addiction without confessing your actions.  This is not some little secret that you can keep tucked away and hope no one will ever know.  You must disclose your addiction, first by admitting it to yourself, second, confess your sins to God, and third, disclose your behavior to your wife or other people it affects..

“Confess your sins to each other and pray for each other so that you may be healed.”

James 5:16

You will not break the chains of addiction and your marriage will not recover from your actions if you are still keeping secrets.

Confession and disclosure is not optional.  It is necessary.  Don’t give me the argument “what she doesn’t know won’t hurt her”.  Bull Shit.  I gave that same excuse for years and all it did was cause more pain down the road.  

If you’re married or in a committed relationship and fighting porn addiction, or worse, have acted out physically, she deserves to know.  You will only cause more damage by withholding the truth.  

“The truth will set you free.”  

John 8:32

Will confessing destroy your marriage?   It could.  But withholding the truth for the sake of saving your marriage is living a lie.   You acted out, you took the sinful action.  You might have to live with the consequences.

But confession doesn’t have to end your relationship.  Confession was the start to healing mine.  We could never have recovered and gotten to where we are today if I was still keeping secrets. 

Even if you’re not married or in a relationship, you should make a disclosure to someone.  I require the men I coach to make a full disclosure to me.  I cannot fully help you if I do not understand everything that happened.  Confess to your coach, counselor, pastor, or even a trusted friend.

Now that you’ve accepted the fact you must confess your actions, how do you do it?

Be Prepared

You need to be adequately prepared to make your confession and disclosure.  This is not something you should do on a whim.  Do not just blurt it out unprepared and without a plan.  I see many men whose hearts are convicted, and feel the need to confess.  This is good, but they just go right ahead and spill their guts without any prior planning or preparation which can actually cause more damage.

In order for your confession to lead to forgiveness and healing instead of brokenness and divorce, you need to handle your disclosure in a safe and healthy manner.

Do NOT do it alone

Under no circumstances should you disclose your behaviors alone with your wife.  This is going to be shocking news and emotions will be running high.  It can very easily devolve into shouting and arguing, saying things that aren’t truly meant, and at worse, violence.  None of this is productive nor will do anything to lead toward healing.

Disclosure needs to be done in a way that can be productive and not cause further damage.  

When you are ready to make your confession, do it with a professional who is trained and has experience in this field.  Sit down with a counselor, therapist, pastor, or coach who can act as a mediator and keep the discussion on track.  

I gave my disclosure to my wife with our pastor.  It was very helpful.  In fact, he didn’t really say much.  He simply helped us to guide the conversation and make sure things didn’t get out of hand. 

Always give your confession with another party present to help.

Find a safe place

I recommend that you do not give your confession at home.  In fact, when I did mine, we went to the pastor’s office at church and even drove in separate cars.  

There are too many distractions at home.  Between kids, phones, etc., it’s too easy to get off track.  This disclosure needs to be a focused and uninterrupted conversation.  Find a place to have it where there will be no intrusions, where you can take the time you need to have the necessary discussions.

Write it down

Do not go into your confession and talk off the cuff.   Write it down.  In my book, Living Porn Free: 10 Steps to Recovery, Redemption, and Renewal, I provide a template to help you make account of your addiction and behaviors.  

Take your time preparing your disclosure. Try to think of everything you have done. You might discover some things you had blocked from your memory.  If there are things you truly don’t remember, make note of that.  

When you give your confession, read it.  Don’t try to memorize it.  Stick to the facts and list off the addictive behaviors.  This is not the time or the place to defend yourself, make excuses, or cast off blame.  You are simply disclosing what you have done.  Understanding the “why’s” and what led to the addiction can come later.

My recommendation is once you have made your disclosure, do not keep your written version.  Get rid of it or give it to your counselor, pastor, or coach who oversaw your confession.  

This isn’t to avoid having a paper trail.  Rather, it is symbolic of moving on.  That was the past.  You are confessing your sins, repenting and going the other way.  Too often I have seen couples regularly go back to the confession and use it against each other.  Make the confession fully and once and for all, then start moving forward.

Once you have made your disclosure, allow your wife to ask any questions.  Answer them.  Be honest.  She may ask you some off the wall questions.  Don’t hide from them.

Answer questions

This is her opportunity to fully understand what happened.  Give her this time.  Do not get defensive or to try to avoid topics which you might rather not talk about.  Answer the questions without comment.  

However, there might be questions she may ask which she may not actually want to know the answers to.  This is where your professional can help you.  Sometimes, knowing the full details does more damage than good.  This isn’t lying or withholding information.  It’s disclosing the information in a manner that is encouraging to healing.  

What if I get caught?

Many times, men don’t even get the chance to plan out their confession and disclosure.  Men often get caught.  Somehow, your wife found out and confronts you with your behavior

This is a very difficult situation.  She is obviously going to be upset.  She is going to want a full confession right then and there.  Honestly, she deserves one.  But for the reasons we’ve discussed above, confession needs to be done in a proper manner.  

If this happens, stay calm.  Do not get defensive.  Do not try to deny it or explain it away.  Tell her you need to talk and you will tell her everything she needs to know but you want to do it in a way that does not cause further damage or unnecessary pain. 

Honestly, this is a hell of a lot easier said than done.  But going into a confession without a plan and when emotions are running extremely high will not be helpful to either of you.

Do your best to be calm and plan a time to give a proper disclosure as soon as possible.

Confession is not the end of your recovery.  It is the beginning.  

Once you make a full disclosure and confession, the real work of healing can begin.  

Be patient.  Your wife may need some space for a while.  You may feel better for getting it off your chest and finally admitting the truth, but you just wrecked her world.  Give her space to process everything that just happened

Confession happens instantly, healing takes time.

Now is the time to get to work.  You need to set boundaries to avoid relapse and establish routines and techniques to help you begin the process of recovery.  Work with a coach to help guide you and give you the tools you need to break free.  Do the deep work to discover WHY you are addicted and find out what your deep inner wounds are that led you to act out through porn and sex.

Confession leads to forgiveness.  Forgiveness leads to healing.  Healing leads to a new life.

How To Break The Relapse Cycle

Tell me if this sounds familiar…

You realize that porn is a problem in your life and you decide to quit.  You are motivated and determined to stop this.  This is finally the time that you’re going to quit for good.  

It starts ok.  You get a few days in.  Things are going great.  You start to gain confidence.  “Hey I can do this!”  

Then out of nowhere, BOOM!  You relapse.

You feel shameful and dejected.  Why can’t I get past this?  I can get a few days or weeks in without any porn but then I inevitably go back to it.

Sound like you?

It definitely sounds like how I used to be.  I could go for a few weeks or even months at a time, but without fail, I would always relapse.  

I would build up this great porn free streak and then throw it all away.

Or did I???

Here’s the mistake so many men make when trying to quit porn.  They focus on the relapses, not on the successes.

Stop counting the times you relapsed to porn.  Start counting the times you won over porn.

Going two weeks without porn and then having relapse isn’t throwing away two weeks of progress.  You were successful 13 days in a row and then fell short one day.  That’s not failure.  That’s success!!!   To put it in sports terms, that’s a .928 batting average.

If you’re going to defeat porn once and for all, you have to shift your mindset.  You cannot continue to let shame control you.  You must start focusing on your wins, not the times you failed.

To continue the baseball analogy, most people know that Babe Ruth hit 714 home runs in his career.  Do you know how many times he struck out?   1,330 times.  Does anyone talk about how many times he struck out?  No!  They focus on his victories.  

That is exactly what you must do in your battle with porn addiction, celebrate the wins and learn from the failures.  

Yes, the goal is zero porn usage.  But if you were watching porn 7-8 times a week and over a couple months you’ve reduced that to once a week, that’s progress, not failure!

You can drive 100 miles and blow a tire.  That sucks.  You wish it didn’t happen.  But it doesn’t undo the 100 miles you’ve already travelled.  You don’t have to go back to mile zero and start over.  You fix the tire and get back on the road.

Relapses don’t destroy your recovery from porn addiction, they are a part of your recovery from porn addiction.  

When you relapse, figure out what went wrong.  What happened?  What could you have done differently to avoid it?  What can you do next time if placed in the same situation?  Then get back on the road and keep driving forward.

Don’t beat yourself up over your relapses, USE them to help you be better the next time. 

In my book, Living Porn Free: 10 Steps to Recovery, Redemption, and Renewal, I teach a method called “Left of Bang” that will help you break down your relapses so that you can learn from them.  

Failure is only failure if you fail to learn. 

I have not worked with a single man who has quit porn cold turkey.  I’m not saying that it can’t happen.  God can do amazing things.  But most men are going to relapse at some point in their recovery.  It happens.  

Shifting your mindset from the negative to the positive is essential in your battle with porn addiction.  You’re not going to make much progress if all you do is beat yourself up everytime you relapse.  It is only going to perpetuate the cycle.  

Try this exercise.

At the end of every day, write down three wins you had that day.  They can be something such as successfully avoiding a trigger, completing your daily Bible reading, or having a good date with your wife. It does not have to be something monumental every day. Sometimes just getting through the day in one piece is a win! 

Focus on positive things you can build on.  Then when you have a bad day, instead of letting it derail you, you can look back at all these wins and victories you had.  You’ll be able to see the progress you’re making and the momentum you’re building.  

Breaking the relapse cycle is not easy.  Many, many men are stuck in the same pattern of trying to quit and relapsing over and over again.  

Yet, you can break free from the cycle.  I did.  Many of the men I have coached have broken out of it.  You can too.

It requires a mindset shift from focusing on failures to focusing on victories.  It requires learning from relapses instead of letting them bury you in shame.  Lastly, and most importantly, it requires never giving up.

Quitting porn is a battle.  There will be good days and bad.  Sometimes you win the day, other times you’re forced to retreat.  But victory is taken by the fighter who refuses to leave the battlefield until the battle is won.

Stay strong, keep fighting, and never give up. 

 

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Introducing the Into The Wilderness Podcast

After months of preparation and hard work, I’m excited to announce the launch of the Into The Wilderness Podcast with Timothy Reigle!

I am taking my ministry of battling men’s porn addiction and expanding it into other topics that modern Christian men need to talk about but where there are few spaces to do so.  

Healing Your Attachment with Adam Lane Smith – Into The Wilderness Podcast with Timothy Reigle

Adam Lane Smith is an attachment specialist.  He spent years practicing as a licensed psychotherapist and now focuses his speciality on helping people fix their attachment issues.  He is also the author of several books, including Slaying Your Fear: A Guide For People Who Grapple With Insecurity.  His new program, Attachment Bootcamp, is a proven 10-step system to love yourself, connect with others, and find lasting romance.  In our conversation, Adam defines what attachment is and why so many problems in life can be traced back to bad attachment.  He and I discuss the effects of attachment on making friends, relationships, and business.  Adam explains the different ways men and women connect emotionally and how to use them to bond with your spouse.  We address the role of religion and faith in regards to attachment and emotional health.  Lastly, we discuss the insecurities so many people carry and how communicating our fears and needs help us to overcome them.  Visit Adam's website: http://www.adamlanesmith.comFollow Adam on Social Media:Twitter: @TheBrometheusInstagram: @attachmentadam————————————————For more information on Into The Wilderness Ministries and Timothy Reigle, visit our website at: http://www.intothewildernessblog.comEmail Timothy at: timothy@intothewildernessblog.comFollow Timothy on social media:Twitter: @TimothyReigleInstagram: @timothyreigleSign Up for my newsletter and receive my FREE E-Book, Power Over Porn, when you click HERE.My book, Living Porn Free: 10 Steps To Recovery, Redemption, and Renewal is available on Amazon HERE.If you're interested in working with Timothy One-on-One, you can schedule a FREE coaching consultation HERE.
  1. Healing Your Attachment with Adam Lane Smith
  2. Get Unstuck In Life, Love, and Business with George Bruno
  3. How To Live A Christian Life In An Anti-Christian World with Pastor Toby Sumpter
  4. How To Become A Family Alpha with Zac Small
  5. Discovering The Truth Behind Porn and Sex Addiction with Dr. Eddie Capparucci

My first guest is Pastor Michael Foster.  Michael is the Pastor of East River Church in Batavia, OH, director of http://www.itsgoodtobeman.com and founder of County Before Country.    His upcoming book It’s Good To Be A Man is available November 30th.  

Pastor Michael and I discuss why it’s good to be a man and what caused society to think of masculinity as toxic.  Michael says that by God’s design, sex is also good and what modern culture has done to skew our relationship with sex.  We talk about how God has given men an innate desire to lead and have dominion over his life and household and how we as men can live out that purpose for our lives.  We touch on death and how it affects us as husbands, fathers, and leaders.  Lastly we discuss ways for men to not just be good men, but to be good and being a man and how to be leaders of ourselves, our families, our churches, and our communities.

Be sure to visit Michael’s website https://itsgoodtobeaman.com

Follow him on Twitter @thisisfoster

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Can You Handle The Truth?

In the film A Few Good Men, starring Tom Cruise and Jack Nicholson, there’s a famous scene where Cruise’s character, Navy JAG attorney Lt. Daniel Kaffee is questioning Nicholson’s character, Marine Colonel Nathan Jessup during a court martial trial for the murder of a Marine.  

In the scene, Kaffee demands that Jessup tell the truth, to which Jessup famously replies, “You can’t handle the truth!”

As men, we must ask ourselves, “Can you handle the truth?”

If someone told you the point blank, honest truth, would you accept it?  Would you deny it?  Would you try to explain it away?

The old phrase, “truth hurts” is true.  It’s often hard to hear the truth, but to thrive as men, we must accept the truth, no matter how painful it may be.  

If it hurts to hear the truth, you need to hear it.  

Yet, so often men today run away from the truth.  They try to do everything possible to avoid admitting what they already know. 

Maybe it’s the truth that you’re a bad father.  You spend your days avoiding your kids and only allow them to see the “tired” version of dad that comes home and drinks beer while watching TV instead of playing with them.  Instead of being supportive and loving you criticize and scold your children for mundane things.  I know I was guilty of that for a time.

It could be that you can’t handle the truth that you’re a bad husband.  Maybe you’ve let yourself go and you’ve gained a ton of weight.  Between that and your nagging porn addiction your wife never wants to have sex with you and you have to settle for pity birthday sex.  Maybe you can’t handle the face that you’re not even the leader of your own household. Your wife “wears the pants” and you have to ask her permission to go anywhere, but anything, and she picks out your clothes like you’re a child.

Perhaps you can’t handle the truth that you’re a lame excuse for a man.  You can’t do 10 pushups without huffing and puffing.  You talk a big game, but you know if it came down to it, you couldn’t physically defend yourself or your family.  You thought you’d be living big and free by now, but you’re miserable, in loads of debt, and there’s no hope in sight. 

I get it. 

The truth is hard to see sometimes.  And it’s even harder to embrace it and take action. 

The men who embrace truth rather than avoid it, are the men who conquer life.

You can run from the truth for years.  You can avoid any situation that might potentially expose your false life and reveal the truth about you.  But it will eventually catch up to you.   You cannot run away from the truth.

John Eldredge, in his excellent book on Christian masculinity, Wild at Heart, writes, “Until a man knows he is a man he will forever be trying to prove he is one, while at the same time shrinking from anything that might reveal he is not.”

Men all want to feel manly.  They want to be the best husband, father, worker, and man they can be.  Yet they avoid facing any test which might prove the truth to them and to everyone else, which is… they’re not.  

It sucks to have reality slap you in the face.  But if you’re truly going to thrive as man, husband, and father, you better accept it and make the changes you need to make.  

You need to look yourself in the mirror.  Are you hiding the truth?  Are you running away from the reality of where you are in life?  Are there things that you know are true about you, yet you do everything in your power to try to hide them?

I can’t tell you what that truth is.  Only you know.  But I guarantee, as you’re reading this right now, you know what it is.  

So again I ask you, “Can you handle the truth?”

If you want to be a man of integrity, a man of courage, and a man who is not held back by his failings, you must accept the truth.  

But you must also act on it.  Accepting the truth means nothing if you do not change.

Hear the truth.  Accept the truth. Act on the truth.  

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How I Quit Porn: My Story of Recovery, Redemption, and Renewal

It was a long road that lead me to becoming the man I am today.  

I’ve been through darkness, despair, and depression.  

I’ve faced trials, tests, and troubles.

Yet, I came out on top of it all.  

This is the story of how I got unbelievably deep in to a devastating Porn and Sex Addiction and how I finally broke free from it after over 15 years, renewed my faith in God, restored my marriage, and became a better man.

Buckle up kids.  This gets messy.

My journey with porn started as a curious teenager. I grew up in a healthy, loving Christian home.  In fact, my dad was a pastor and I grew up literally next door to the church.  But the only thing I learned about sex was “DONT DO IT.  WAIT UNTIL MARRIAGE”  So, like many hormonal 12 year old boys, I got curious and learned about sex and explored by watching porn. 

I was coming at age at the height of the tech bubble and the early stages of internet porn.  I never had to steal someone’s Playboy or rent movies from the video store.  I was able to go online late at night or when nobody was home.  I got immediately hooked.  

What was always portrayed to me as an evil sin felt amazing. It felt exhilarating, exciting, and dangerous. I started watching porn and masturbating almost daily.  As I got older in high school I got into sexual relationships with girlfriends.  I played in bands for years and dove fully into the sex, drugs, and rock ‘n’ roll lifestyle.  It seemed like everything I did was for the purpose of having sex or watching porn.

My craving for more porn escalated.  Regular, “vanilla” porn wasn’t enough anymore, and I started watching dirtier, kinkier, and fetish porn.  Eventually porn itself wasn’t enough and I got into webcams and chat rooms.  The addiction spiraled out of control.

I got married young.  I had kids young.  I naively thought that would stop my insatiable appetite for porn and sex.  It didn’t.  In fact, it got worse.  

My addiction continued to escalate.  I started meeting up with girls online; Craigslist, Tinder, etc.  I had countless hookups and encounters.  I engaged with escorts, had sex with prositutes and went to sex clubs.  I did party drugs and drank to excess.  I had threesomes, went to swinger parties, and took part in orgies.

To this day, I have no idea how many people I’ve actually had sex with.  Many I had sex with only after a few minutes of meeting.  Most I never even knew their names.  I was completely out of control.

My wife caught me a few times.  So did a few friends. But like any good liar, I talked my way out of it, promised to quit, then went right back to it.  I simply got better at not getting caught.  I was good at hiding it.  There would be times I was out til 3:00 or 4:00 in the morning and would be in church by 9:00 pretending to be a good husband and father.

Hardly anyone knew about this secret life.  Those who did had no idea of the extent of it.  This continued for years and years. I might quit for a little while, but I would inevitably relapse.  This vicious cycle had me ensnared.

My wife and I separated for almost a year.  At this point I was almost glad my marriage was over.  I could do what I wanted without having to hide it and I didn’t feel the guilt of cheating.  My wife was dealing with some health issues and I used that as an excuse for our failing marriage.  I blamed her for all the problems to deflect the blame from my addiction.

For a year, I had my two kids by myself.  I worked a full time job, a part time job, and went to college full time.  You’d think I wouldn’t have time for porn or sex.  But porn and sex was my stress reliever.  I used it to deal with the overwhelming pressure I was dealing with.  Part of me didn’t want my wife to come back.  I actually filed for divorce.  But I couldn’t bring myself to go through with it.  My wife and I had a deep conversation and decided we would get back together.

But that didn’t stop my addiction.  It continued even after we got back together.  I knew what I was doing was wrong.  Every time was the “last” time.  But it never was.  I hated myself for it.  There were times I contemplated suicide.  I considered intentionally destroying my marriage so I wouldn’t have the guilt of watching porn or cheating on my wife. 

I tried to quit; to do the right thing.  I read books, went to counseling. attended seminars.  All that.  They might work for a while, but I always went back.  I thought I was hopeless, stuck, too damaged, too broken and unforgivable.

But then, I hit my turning point.  I got caught (again).  But this time, when my friends found out, they disowned me.  These were my closest brothers, my accountability partners, my only true friends.  But I’d lied to them as much as my wife and they were done with it.

That hurt.  But it woke me up.  It was the gut punch I needed.  But at the same time I’m ashamed that it wasn’t all the pain I caused my wife that woke me up, and all the damage I’d caused my family.  It was losing my buddies that got me to change.

I had to look myself in the mirror, and I hated what I saw.  I’d been a liar, a cheat, and an adulterer.  I was fat, lazy, and pathetic.   I was a terrible husband, a miserable father, and a horrible example of a Christian.

I cried out to God in desperation. I knew I had to change or I was going to lose EVERYTHING; my marriage, my kids, my career, my friends, all of it.

God told me, “Tim, I love you.  I forgive you. I’m going to use you. Now, go and sin no more.”

I’d love to say I’ve been 100% perfect since that moment, but I haven’t.  I had relapses and setbacks.  It was a battle, to be sure.  There were good days and bad, ups and downs, victories and failures.  

I started working with a dear Pastor friend of mine who encouraged me, supported me, and held me accountable.  He didn’t condemn me and tell me what a piece of shit I was.  He showed me love, tough love if I needed it, and guided me to freedom. 

He checked in on me regularly to make sure I was on track. He helped me develop new and better habits to avoid temptation and recognize triggers. Most importantly, he helped me do the deep work of healing my heart.

I realized I wasn’t desiring sex.  I wasn’t just a pervert or hornier than everyone else.  I was desiring intimacy, connection, and acceptance.   But instead of seeking intimacy with God, my wife, and friends, I sought cheap intimacy through porn and sex.

I realized I was using porn and sex to cover up emotional wounds of rejection, feeling inadequate, loneliness, and having to live up to an unattainable standard.  It was discovering these truths about myself that led to healing.

Through hard work and refusing to give up, I found Recovery.  Through the grace and forgiveness of Christ, I found Redemption.  Through the love of my wife and family, I found Renewal.

I made a full confession to my wife.  Through hard work and forgiveness, we stayed together.  We even renewed our wedding vows on our 10th anniversary.  Our marriage is now stronger than ever.  I’m the husband, father, and man I was supposed to be.

I’m now completely sober and stronger than ever. I have years of sobriety under my belt and there’s no turning back. I no longer need porn. My faith in God guides me through my life. My wife satisfies all my needs. My mission is no longer to find pleasure, but to live out God’s purpose for my life.

After finding sobriety, I began sharing my story with other men and showing them how I found freedom.   Men everywhere heard my story and reached out for help.  I wrote a book, LIVING PORN FREE: 10 Steps To Recovery, Redemption, and Renewal.  I started 1-on-1 coaching to help men find freedom.

Now, hundreds of men have broken free from Porn & Sex Addiction using my system.  God used my story to help other men find the same freedom I have.

No man is beyond hope.  No man is beyond help.  No man is too broken

If my story has resonated with you, reach out to me for help.  I believe God has given me the mission to help other men overcome the darkness that He brought me through.  

You CAN defeat this addiction.  It will be the hardest thing you’ve ever done, but freedom is there.  You just have to fight for it.

But you’ll never win this battle alone.  It’s not a one on one fight.  It’s a war, and you need brothers beside you.  That’s where one-on-one coaching comes in.  

I’ll provide the accountability you need to finally quit porn.  I’ll show you the steps to living porn free.  I’ll encourage and support you every day to keep fighting for freedom. Don’t try to do it alone like I did for so many years.  You see where that got me.  Let me help you.  Let me show you the path to freedom.  Let me help you Live Porn Free.

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I’ll provide the accountability you need to finally quit porn.  I’ll show you the steps to living porn free.  I’ll encourage and support you every day to keep fighting for freedom. 

I’ve helped hundreds of men quit porn for good.  

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