Is Masturbation Ok?

Hardly a day goes by when I do not receive a message or an email from someone asking something like this, “I have gone X days without watching porn, but I still masturbate regularly.  Is that ok?” Is masturbation without porn ok? Unfortunately, there isn’t really a simple yes or no answer to that question. Continue reading “Is Masturbation Ok?”

Join The PORN FREE 2021 Challenge

A new year is a time to reflect and a time to look ahead.  It’s a time when we set goals and try to make needed changes in our lives. Unfortunately, many times those changes don’t even last until February. So, this year, I’m not asking you to make a New Year’s resolution.  I’m askingContinue reading “Join The PORN FREE 2021 Challenge”

Covid, Porn, and Human Sex Trafficking – A Vicious Combination

This week I’m happy to have a guest post from Melanie Trammell-Wenger. Melanie is an advocate raising awareness about human sex trafficking. She is also co-worker of mine at my church where I serve as Worship Director. Covid never seems to disappoint in the ways it has wreaked havoc on our world this year. PornContinue reading “Covid, Porn, and Human Sex Trafficking – A Vicious Combination”

How Your Company Affects Your Character

Have you ever noticed how your mood or motivation changes depending upon who you’re around at that moment? In one sense, you could feel down and sorry about yourself, and if you come into contact with the right person, they can quickly have you feel like you can take on the whole world. In anotherContinue reading “How Your Company Affects Your Character”

Small Victories in a Larger War

The anti-porn movement won two major victories in the last few days. First, last Thursday, Mastercard and Visa announced they will stop allowing their cards to be used on Pornhub due to the website hosting videos of child abuse and rape.  Discover quickly followed suit. http://www.nytimes.com/visa-mastercard-block-pornhub This could potentially cause some financial problems for PornhubContinue reading “Small Victories in a Larger War”

Will I Be Remembered When I’m Gone?

Over half of my life has been spent working in funeral homes.  I started at age 16 as an after school job in high school and I’m still doing it now.  In over 18 years in this business, I’ve seen a lot of things.   I’ve seen tragedies too many to count.  I’ve seen heartbreak youContinue reading “Will I Be Remembered When I’m Gone?”

Don’t Be A Frog In Water

There’s a lab experiment often told, where a frog is placed in water heating at the rate of .0036 of a degree Fahrenheit per second and, although it never moves, at the end of two and a half hours, the frog is found to be dead.  The explanation is that the water is heated soContinue reading “Don’t Be A Frog In Water”

Does Porn Make Me A Bad Man?

Porn makes you feel a lot of things. It makes you feel good.  It gets you excited.  It allows you to escape from the stresses of life.  These “good” things only last a short time. Porn also makes you feel shame, regret, and disgust.  It leads to depression, increased (not decreased) stress, and overwhelming guilt.Continue reading “Does Porn Make Me A Bad Man?”

Embrace, Not Escape, Your Weakness

There’s an old saying, “You’re only as strong as your greatest weakness.”   But what if you could turn your greatest weakness into your greatest strength? What if you could use the things you struggle with the most to actually better your life? What if, to paraphrase Joseph in Genesis 50, you could take what wasContinue reading “Embrace, Not Escape, Your Weakness”