Are You a Man, or a Man-Child?

In today’s world, it seems like there are fewer and fewer true men and more and more man-children. What do I mean by a man-child? A man-child is someone who is an adult by age, but not in maturity.  He could be 25, 30, or even 40 years old.  He could be married, have children,Continue reading “Are You a Man, or a Man-Child?”

Why Is Porn Dangerous?

My mission is to help men fight and defeat porn and sex addiction.  As you might imagine, this opens me up to a lot of comments from people, especially on Twitter. One of the most common responses I get is, “What’s wrong with porn?  It doesn’t hurt anyone.” Does it? If you have struggled atContinue reading “Why Is Porn Dangerous?”

When Does A Boy Become A Man?

When does a boy become a man? What is done in modern society to signify the passage from boyhood to manhood? Your first beer? Losing your V-card? Getting a driver’s license?  No longer do older men take a younger man under their tutelage and show them how to be a man.  We are taught howContinue reading “When Does A Boy Become A Man?”

I Just Don’t Have Time

How often do you catch yourself saying, “I just don’t have time” or “I really wish I had more time”? Here’s some hard truth for you. You have the time, you just waste it. We all want time to learn a new skill, exercise, relax, spend time with our families, etc.  Yet how much timeContinue reading “I Just Don’t Have Time”

My Turning Point

When discussing my history with porn and sex addiction and my subsequent recovery, I’m often asked what my turning point was.   What was the catalyst to change? What made me finally turn my life around? I cannot say that it was a singular moment that sparked the change in my life from being addicted toContinue reading “My Turning Point”

Think Like A Gardener

Have you ever observed a gardener plant a garden? I don’t mean a vegetable or herb garden.  I mean a landscaped garden.  A peaceful place to walk and enjoy the beautiful wildlife. When a gardener plants trees, shrubs, and flowers, they have to think years ahead. If they only designed their gardens for what theyContinue reading “Think Like A Gardener”

What Kind of Father Are You?

What kind of father are you? Are you the kind of father who is present, engaged, teaching, disciplining and loving? Or are you the type of father who is absent, unstable, weak, and effeminate? Pope John XXIII wrote,  “It is easier for a father to have children than for children to have a real father.”Continue reading “What Kind of Father Are You?”

Masturbation and Lust

I’m excited to have a guest post from Hugh Houston, pastor and author of Jesus Is Better Than Porn. Pornography and masturbation almost always walk hand in hand.  This was a huge problem for me.  I know many people have strong feelings on this subject. It is a controversial subject, even among Christians.  As IContinue reading “Masturbation and Lust”

I Just Don’t Feel Like It

Some days, I just don’t think I have it in me.   Today was one of those days. My alarm went off at 6:00 a.m. this morning and I was NOT feeling it.   That bed felt so comfortable. I had been up late with meetings. It’s my weekend off.  Everything lined up to tell me, “TakeContinue reading “I Just Don’t Feel Like It”

That Hurts! How Healing Comes Through Embracing Pain.

What causes the worst pain in your life? I don’t necessarily mean physical pain as in stubbing your toe or breaking your arm. I mean what causes the most emotional pain? What are some things in your life that you have a hard time dealing with?  What are some things that you’re unwilling to faceContinue reading “That Hurts! How Healing Comes Through Embracing Pain.”