What Are You REALLY Addicted To?

We use the term “Addiction” a lot these days.  In fact, we probably over-use the term.   In many ways, we’ve degraded the seriousness of addiction by using it to describe things that aren’t really an addiction.  “I’m addicted to chocolate.” I’m addicted to this TV show.”  There’s even the classic, yet cringy, song “Addicted ToContinue reading “What Are You REALLY Addicted To?”

Do You Have Perseverance?

Do you have perseverance? Do you have what it takes to keep going no matter how hard, how far, or how painful? The sad news is that many men today are mentally weak.  Far too often, men give up at the first sign of difficulty.  Instead of fighting through the hardship, they surrender and admitContinue reading “Do You Have Perseverance?”

Restoring Trust After Porn Addiction

One of the most damaging effects of porn addiction is the destruction of trust it causes in relationships. While I do not believe that Porn Addiction itself rises to the level of Adultery or Cheating, it does break the trust established and leads to feelings of betrayal.   Wives are often left feeling broken, hurt,Continue reading “Restoring Trust After Porn Addiction”

Progress Over Perfection

There’s one phrase that I repeat over and over again to the men that I coach.   “Two steps forward, one step back, is still moving forward.” The point is that just because you might be falling short sometimes, doesn’t mean you aren’t making progress.   If you’re fighting, if you’re working hard, if you’re determined,Continue reading “Progress Over Perfection”

Will I Be Remembered When I’m Gone?

Over half of my life has been spent working in funeral homes.  I started at age 16 as an after school job in high school and I’m still doing it now.  In over 18 years in this business, I’ve seen a lot of things.   I’ve seen tragedies too many to count.  I’ve seen heartbreak youContinue reading “Will I Be Remembered When I’m Gone?”

Don’t Be A Frog In Water

There’s a lab experiment often told, where a frog is placed in water heating at the rate of .0036 of a degree Fahrenheit per second and, although it never moves, at the end of two and a half hours, the frog is found to be dead.  The explanation is that the water is heated soContinue reading “Don’t Be A Frog In Water”

Does Porn Make Me A Bad Man?

Porn makes you feel a lot of things. It makes you feel good.  It gets you excited.  It allows you to escape from the stresses of life.  These “good” things only last a short time. Porn also makes you feel shame, regret, and disgust.  It leads to depression, increased (not decreased) stress, and overwhelming guilt.Continue reading “Does Porn Make Me A Bad Man?”

Embrace, Not Escape, Your Weakness

There’s an old saying, “You’re only as strong as your greatest weakness.”   But what if you could turn your greatest weakness into your greatest strength? What if you could use the things you struggle with the most to actually better your life? What if, to paraphrase Joseph in Genesis 50, you could take what wasContinue reading “Embrace, Not Escape, Your Weakness”

NOW AVAILABLE! Living Porn Free: 10 Steps to Recovery, Redemption, and Renewal

It has never been easy for me to open up about my battle with pornography addiction. I hid it for years and was ashamed to let anyone know what was going on in my secret life. However, God had different plans for me. I was hesitant, but every time I obeyed and shared my story,Continue reading “NOW AVAILABLE! Living Porn Free: 10 Steps to Recovery, Redemption, and Renewal”

What Do I Do If I Relapse?

So you “messed up”??? Feeling pretty terrible, I bet. Feel like you threw away all those days of success? Feel like you’re starting all over again? It’s normal to feel lousy after a relapse, but a relapse doesn’t have to turn into a disaster.  Relapses are inevitable.  They’re going to happen. No one has EVERContinue reading “What Do I Do If I Relapse?”