Will I Be Remembered When I’m Gone?

Over half of my life has been spent working in funeral homes.  I started at age 16 as an after school job in high school and I’m still doing it now.  In over 18 years in this business, I’ve seen a lot of things.   I’ve seen tragedies too many to count.  I’ve seen heartbreak youContinue reading “Will I Be Remembered When I’m Gone?”

Don’t Be A Frog In Water

There’s a lab experiment often told, where a frog is placed in water heating at the rate of .0036 of a degree Fahrenheit per second and, although it never moves, at the end of two and a half hours, the frog is found to be dead.  The explanation is that the water is heated soContinue reading “Don’t Be A Frog In Water”

Does Porn Make Me A Bad Man?

Porn makes you feel a lot of things. It makes you feel good.  It gets you excited.  It allows you to escape from the stresses of life.  These “good” things only last a short time. Porn also makes you feel shame, regret, and disgust.  It leads to depression, increased (not decreased) stress, and overwhelming guilt.Continue reading “Does Porn Make Me A Bad Man?”

Embrace, Not Escape, Your Weakness

There’s an old saying, “You’re only as strong as your greatest weakness.”   But what if you could turn your greatest weakness into your greatest strength? What if you could use the things you struggle with the most to actually better your life? What if, to paraphrase Joseph in Genesis 50, you could take what wasContinue reading “Embrace, Not Escape, Your Weakness”

NOW AVAILABLE! Living Porn Free: 10 Steps to Recovery, Redemption, and Renewal

It has never been easy for me to open up about my battle with pornography addiction. I hid it for years and was ashamed to let anyone know what was going on in my secret life. However, God had different plans for me. I was hesitant, but every time I obeyed and shared my story,Continue reading “NOW AVAILABLE! Living Porn Free: 10 Steps to Recovery, Redemption, and Renewal”

What Do I Do If I Relapse?

So you “messed up”??? Feeling pretty terrible, I bet. Feel like you threw away all those days of success? Feel like you’re starting all over again? It’s normal to feel lousy after a relapse, but a relapse doesn’t have to turn into a disaster.  Relapses are inevitable.  They’re going to happen. No one has EVERContinue reading “What Do I Do If I Relapse?”

My Turning Point

When discussing my history with porn and sex addiction and my subsequent recovery, I’m often asked what my turning point was.   What was the catalyst to change? What made me finally turn my life around? I cannot say that it was a singular moment that sparked the change in my life from being addicted toContinue reading “My Turning Point”

Why Am I Stuck?

How many times has this thought come to your mind, “Why do I keep doing this? I want to quit. I keep trying, but I keep messing up.  Why am I stuck?” This is a thought shared by almost every man who’s ever been addicted.  You’re trying so hard to defeat this enemy, yet youContinue reading “Why Am I Stuck?”

What To Do When Faced With A Trigger?

We’ve all been there. You’ll be doing great in you’re battle with porn and sex addiction.  You’re not spending too much time on your phone or computer.  You’re keeping grounded in prayer, Scripture, and meditation.  You’re checking in regularly with your support system and accountability partner. Them BAM! Something comes out of nowhere and allContinue reading “What To Do When Faced With A Trigger?”

Beware Your Dark Side

If a kingdom is divided against itself, that kingdom cannot stand – Mark 3:24 Are you where you want to be in life? How many of us reach the ages of 30, 40, or 50 and have accomplished even half of what we thought we would? As children, we all imagine ourselves changing the worldContinue reading “Beware Your Dark Side”