It was a long road that lead me to becoming the man I am today. I’ve been through darkness, despair, and depression. I’ve faced trials, tests, and troubles. Yet, I came out on top of it all. This is the story of how I got unbelievably deep in to a devastating PornContinue reading “How I Quit Porn: My Story of Recovery, Redemption, and Renewal”
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Am I Unforgivable?
When you struggle with an addiction to porn and sex, you are often your own worst enemy. You feel shameful for your actions. You’re filled with regret. Then your negative feelings eventually drive you back to the porn that caused them in the first place. Around and around you go. It may feel like you’reContinue reading “Am I Unforgivable?”
What Are You REALLY Addicted To?
We use the term “Addiction” a lot these days. In fact, we probably over-use the term. In many ways, we’ve degraded the seriousness of addiction by using it to describe things that aren’t really an addiction. “I’m addicted to chocolate.” I’m addicted to this TV show.” There’s even the classic, yet cringy, song “Addicted ToContinue reading “What Are You REALLY Addicted To?”
Do You Have Perseverance?
Do you have perseverance? Do you have what it takes to keep going no matter how hard, how far, or how painful? The sad news is that many men today are mentally weak. Far too often, men give up at the first sign of difficulty. Instead of fighting through the hardship, they surrender and admitContinue reading “Do You Have Perseverance?”
How To Restore Trust After Porn Addiction
One of the most damaging effects of porn addiction is the destruction of trust it causes in relationships. While I do not believe that Porn Addiction itself rises to the level of Adultery or Cheating, it does break the trust established and leads to feelings of betrayal. Wives are often left feeling broken, hurt,Continue reading “How To Restore Trust After Porn Addiction”
Progress Over Perfection
There’s one phrase that I repeat over and over again to the men that I coach. “Two steps forward, one step back, is still moving forward.” The point is that just because you might be falling short sometimes, doesn’t mean you aren’t making progress. If you’re fighting, if you’re working hard, if you’re determined,Continue reading “Progress Over Perfection”
Will I Be Remembered When I’m Gone?
Over half of my life has been spent working in funeral homes. I started at age 16 as an after school job in high school and I’m still doing it now. In over 18 years in this business, I’ve seen a lot of things. I’ve seen tragedies too many to count. I’ve seen heartbreak youContinue reading “Will I Be Remembered When I’m Gone?”
Don’t Be A Frog In Water
There’s a lab experiment often told, where a frog is placed in water heating at the rate of .0036 of a degree Fahrenheit per second and, although it never moves, at the end of two and a half hours, the frog is found to be dead. The explanation is that the water is heated soContinue reading “Don’t Be A Frog In Water”
Does Porn Make Me A Bad Man?
Porn makes you feel a lot of things. It makes you feel good. It gets you excited. It allows you to escape from the stresses of life. These “good” things only last a short time. Porn also makes you feel shame, regret, and disgust. It leads to depression, increased (not decreased) stress, and overwhelming guilt.Continue reading “Does Porn Make Me A Bad Man?”
Embrace, Not Escape, Your Weakness
There’s an old saying, “You’re only as strong as your greatest weakness.” But what if you could turn your greatest weakness into your greatest strength? What if you could use the things you struggle with the most to actually better your life? What if, to paraphrase Joseph in Genesis 50, you could take what wasContinue reading “Embrace, Not Escape, Your Weakness”
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