Am I Unforgivable?

When you struggle with an addiction to porn and sex, you are often your own worst enemy. You feel shameful for your actions.  You’re filled with regret.  Then your negative feelings eventually drive you back to the porn that caused them in the first place.   Around and around you go. It may feel like you’reContinue reading “Am I Unforgivable?”

Shhh!!! Don’t Talk About That!

People do a lot of talking these days. They talk about politics, religion, sports, the weather, what they’re binge-watching.   People are more than happy to gab your ear off about their opinions and how they think things should be.  They’ll tell you all about their lives but never once ask you about yours.  TheyContinue reading “Shhh!!! Don’t Talk About That!”

Who Is Your Nathan?

Who Is Your Nathan? Many of us are familiar with the story of King David and Bathsheba.   In the account described in the Bible, King David saw Bathsheba bathing on a roof and was immediately filled with intense lust for her.  He committed adultery with her knowing that she was married.  When she became pregnant,Continue reading “Who Is Your Nathan?”

How To Restore Trust After Porn Addiction

One of the most damaging effects of porn addiction is the destruction of trust it causes in relationships. While I do not believe that Porn Addiction itself rises to the level of Adultery or Cheating, it does break the trust established and leads to feelings of betrayal.   Wives are often left feeling broken, hurt,Continue reading “How To Restore Trust After Porn Addiction”

Who Wears The Pants? 10 Ways Men Must Lead Their Families

Who “wears the pants” in your family? If the answer is not unquestionably you, you’re failing as a man.  Masculinity begets leadership.  Masculinity IS leadership.  Man was born to lead.  This is his purpose, his duty, and where he finds fulfillment.   Men, it is your job to lead your family.  It is not your wife’s. Continue reading “Who Wears The Pants? 10 Ways Men Must Lead Their Families”

5 Things You MUST Do To Quit Porn

Porn addiction is real. There’s no denying this. People may argue whether or not it’s moral, but you cannot argue that it has a devastating effect on society, young men in particular. According to Covenant Eyes, 63% of 18-30 year olds watch porn multiple times a week and 79% view porn at least once a month.Continue reading “5 Things You MUST Do To Quit Porn”

Is Masturbation Ok?

Hardly a day goes by when I do not receive a message or an email from someone asking something like this, “I have gone X days without watching porn, but I still masturbate regularly.  Is that ok?” Is masturbation without porn ok? Unfortunately, there isn’t really a simple yes or no answer to that question. Continue reading “Is Masturbation Ok?”

Will I Be Remembered When I’m Gone?

Over half of my life has been spent working in funeral homes.  I started at age 16 as an after school job in high school and I’m still doing it now.  In over 18 years in this business, I’ve seen a lot of things.   I’ve seen tragedies too many to count.  I’ve seen heartbreak youContinue reading “Will I Be Remembered When I’m Gone?”

Don’t Be A Frog In Water

There’s a lab experiment often told, where a frog is placed in water heating at the rate of .0036 of a degree Fahrenheit per second and, although it never moves, at the end of two and a half hours, the frog is found to be dead.  The explanation is that the water is heated soContinue reading “Don’t Be A Frog In Water”

Does Porn Make Me A Bad Man?

Porn makes you feel a lot of things. It makes you feel good.  It gets you excited.  It allows you to escape from the stresses of life.  These “good” things only last a short time. Porn also makes you feel shame, regret, and disgust.  It leads to depression, increased (not decreased) stress, and overwhelming guilt.Continue reading “Does Porn Make Me A Bad Man?”