How To Break The Relapse Cycle
Tell me if this sounds familiar… You realize that porn is a problem in your life and you decide to quit. You are motivated and determined to stop this. This is finally the time that you’re going to quit for good. It starts ok. You get a few days in. Things are going great. You […]
How To Use The Power of Visualization To See Your Goals
One of the best tools you can utilize to find success is to visualize your goals. Visualization allows you to see in your mind’s eye what you are working toward. It allows you to see the end of the battle before you get there. Take a few minutes today and do this exercise: I want […]
Progress Over Perfection
There’s one phrase that I repeat over and over again to the men that I coach. “Two steps forward, one step back, is still moving forward.” The point is that just because you might be falling short sometimes, doesn’t mean you aren’t making progress. If you’re fighting, if you’re working hard, if you’re determined, […]
NOW AVAILABLE! Living Porn Free: 10 Steps to Recovery, Redemption, and Renewal
It has never been easy for me to open up about my battle with pornography addiction. I hid it for years and was ashamed to let anyone know what was going on in my secret life. However, God had different plans for me. I was hesitant, but every time I obeyed and shared my story, […]
How To Avoid Addiction Substitution
If you’ve followed my writings for any length of time, you know how often I warn of the dangers of porn addiction. Porn is a cancer that is destroying men from the inside out. I’ve dedicated my ministry to using my story of addiction and recovery to help other men find freedom from the bondage […]
What Do I Do If I Relapse?
So you “messed up”??? Feeling pretty terrible, I bet. Feel like you threw away all those days of success? Feel like you’re starting all over again? It’s normal to feel lousy after a relapse, but a relapse doesn’t have to turn into a disaster. Relapses are inevitable. They’re going to happen. No one has EVER […]
The New Drug Epidemic
We have a major drug epidemic in the world right now. No, it’s not opioids. (Although this is a major problem) It’s not crack It’s not meth It’s not weed. In fact, you can’t even buy this drug on the streets. Why? Because you produce it inside your own body. It is Dopamine. The world […]
I Just Don’t Have Time
How often do you catch yourself saying, “I just don’t have time” or “I really wish I had more time”? Here’s some hard truth for you. You have the time, you just waste it. We all want time to learn a new skill, exercise, relax, spend time with our families, etc. Yet how much time […]
I Just Don’t Feel Like It
Some days, I just don’t think I have it in me. Today was one of those days. My alarm went off at 6:00 a.m. this morning and I was NOT feeling it. That bed felt so comfortable. I had been up late with meetings. It’s my weekend off. Everything lined up to tell me, “Take […]
Winning The Small Battles
There’s an old adage that says, “Rome wasn’t built in a day.” The idea is that you can’t build something as great and mighty as ancient Rome quickly. It takes time, effort, and patience to build something that is strong and lasting. Too many men, in their battles with porn and sex addiction, try to […]