Is Masturbation Ok?

Hardly a day goes by when I do not receive a message or an email from someone asking something like this, “I have gone X days without watching porn, but I still masturbate regularly.  Is that ok?” Is masturbation without porn ok? Unfortunately, there isn’t really a simple yes or no answer to that question. Continue reading “Is Masturbation Ok?”

How Your Company Affects Your Character

Have you ever noticed how your mood or motivation changes depending upon who you’re around at that moment? In one sense, you could feel down and sorry about yourself, and if you come into contact with the right person, they can quickly have you feel like you can take on the whole world. In anotherContinue reading “How Your Company Affects Your Character”

Small Victories in a Larger War

The anti-porn movement won two major victories in the last few days. First, last Thursday, Mastercard and Visa announced they will stop allowing their cards to be used on Pornhub due to the website hosting videos of child abuse and rape.  Discover quickly followed suit. http://www.nytimes.com/visa-mastercard-block-pornhub This could potentially cause some financial problems for PornhubContinue reading “Small Victories in a Larger War”

Don’t Be A Frog In Water

There’s a lab experiment often told, where a frog is placed in water heating at the rate of .0036 of a degree Fahrenheit per second and, although it never moves, at the end of two and a half hours, the frog is found to be dead.  The explanation is that the water is heated soContinue reading “Don’t Be A Frog In Water”

Does Porn Make Me A Bad Man?

Porn makes you feel a lot of things. It makes you feel good.  It gets you excited.  It allows you to escape from the stresses of life.  These “good” things only last a short time. Porn also makes you feel shame, regret, and disgust.  It leads to depression, increased (not decreased) stress, and overwhelming guilt.Continue reading “Does Porn Make Me A Bad Man?”

Embrace, Not Escape, Your Weakness

There’s an old saying, “You’re only as strong as your greatest weakness.”   But what if you could turn your greatest weakness into your greatest strength? What if you could use the things you struggle with the most to actually better your life? What if, to paraphrase Joseph in Genesis 50, you could take what wasContinue reading “Embrace, Not Escape, Your Weakness”

Can My Marriage Be Saved After Porn?

Porn Addiction has devastating effects.   It destroys health, families, careers, and marriages. But it doesn’t have to. If you or your spouse has battled porn, you may ask, “Can my marriage be saved after porn addiction? YES! I’m living proof. My addiction to porn and sex almost destroyed my marriage. I was unfaithful to myContinue reading “Can My Marriage Be Saved After Porn?”

NOW AVAILABLE! Living Porn Free: 10 Steps to Recovery, Redemption, and Renewal

It has never been easy for me to open up about my battle with pornography addiction. I hid it for years and was ashamed to let anyone know what was going on in my secret life. However, God had different plans for me. I was hesitant, but every time I obeyed and shared my story,Continue reading “NOW AVAILABLE! Living Porn Free: 10 Steps to Recovery, Redemption, and Renewal”

Are You a Man, or a Man-Child?

In today’s world, it seems like there are fewer and fewer true men and more and more man-children. What do I mean by a man-child? A man-child is someone who is an adult by age, but not in maturity.  He could be 25, 30, or even 40 years old.  He could be married, have children,Continue reading “Are You a Man, or a Man-Child?”

Why Is Porn Dangerous?

My mission is to help men fight and defeat porn and sex addiction.  As you might imagine, this opens me up to a lot of comments from people, especially on Twitter. One of the most common responses I get is, “What’s wrong with porn?  It doesn’t hurt anyone.” Does it? If you have struggled atContinue reading “Why Is Porn Dangerous?”