Are You a Man, or a Man-Child?

In today’s world, it seems like there are fewer and fewer true men and more and more man-children. What do I mean by a man-child? A man-child is someone who is an adult by age, but not in maturity.  He could be 25, 30, or even 40 years old.  He could be married, have children,Continue reading “Are You a Man, or a Man-Child?”

How To Avoid Addiction Substitution

If you’ve followed my writings for any length of time, you know how often I warn of the dangers of porn addiction. Porn is a cancer that is destroying men from the inside out.  I’ve dedicated my ministry to using my story of addiction and recovery to help other men find freedom from the bondageContinue reading “How To Avoid Addiction Substitution”

The New Drug Epidemic

We have a major drug epidemic in the world right now. No, it’s not opioids. (Although this is a major problem) It’s not crack It’s not meth It’s not weed.  In fact, you can’t even buy this drug on the streets.   Why?  Because you produce it inside your own body.  It is Dopamine. The worldContinue reading “The New Drug Epidemic”

My Turning Point

When discussing my history with porn and sex addiction and my subsequent recovery, I’m often asked what my turning point was.   What was the catalyst to change? What made me finally turn my life around? I cannot say that it was a singular moment that sparked the change in my life from being addicted toContinue reading “My Turning Point”

What Kind of Father Are You?

What kind of father are you? Are you the kind of father who is present, engaged, teaching, disciplining and loving? Or are you the type of father who is absent, unstable, weak, and effeminate? Pope John XXIII wrote,  “It is easier for a father to have children than for children to have a real father.”Continue reading “What Kind of Father Are You?”

I Just Don’t Feel Like It

Some days, I just don’t think I have it in me.   Today was one of those days. My alarm went off at 6:00 a.m. this morning and I was NOT feeling it.   That bed felt so comfortable. I had been up late with meetings. It’s my weekend off.  Everything lined up to tell me, “TakeContinue reading “I Just Don’t Feel Like It”

Make Yourself Uncomfortable

How comfortable are you right now? Are you lounging on the couch?  Lying in bed?  Sitting at your desk? I hope you aren’t driving while you read this.   Ask yourself, when was the last time you were uncomfortable.  I don’t mean when was the last time that tag on your t-shirt bothered you.  I meanContinue reading “Make Yourself Uncomfortable”

What To Do When Faced With A Trigger?

We’ve all been there. You’ll be doing great in you’re battle with porn and sex addiction.  You’re not spending too much time on your phone or computer.  You’re keeping grounded in prayer, Scripture, and meditation.  You’re checking in regularly with your support system and accountability partner. Them BAM! Something comes out of nowhere and allContinue reading “What To Do When Faced With A Trigger?”

H.O.P.E.

There’s an old proverb that says, “A man can live about three weeks without food, three days without water, three minutes without air, but he cannot live three seconds without hope.”  Why is hope so important? Hope gives us something to live for.  It gives us a purpose. It lets us know that there isContinue reading “H.O.P.E.”

We Need A Mr. Rogers

My family and I enjoy at-home movie nights.  We all get a big bowl of ice cream and settle into the living room for a great time together. The other night, we decided to watch the Mr. Rogers biopic, A Beautiful Day In The Neighborhood.  It was an excellent movie detailing a great man andContinue reading “We Need A Mr. Rogers”