Progress Over Perfection

There’s one phrase that I repeat over and over again to the men that I coach.   “Two steps forward, one step back, is still moving forward.” The point is that just because you might be falling short sometimes, doesn’t mean you aren’t making progress.   If you’re fighting, if you’re working hard, if you’re determined,Continue reading “Progress Over Perfection”

Is Adultery Forgivable?

Marriage and long term relationships always have their ups and downs.  Any one who has been in one for any length of time can tell you there will be actions you have to forgive the other partner for and you’re going to have to be willing to accept imperfections about them. But is there anythingContinue reading “Is Adultery Forgivable?”

The Lost Art of Deep Conversation

When was the last time you had a deep meaningful conversation with someone? If you can’t remember, that’s a problem. The majority of the conversations that men have are extremely shallow.  Many rarely ever go beyond the weather or sports. But men need conversation.  We need to connect with one another on a deeper level. Continue reading “The Lost Art of Deep Conversation”

Who Wears The Pants? 10 Ways Men Must Lead Their Families

Who “wears the pants” in your family? If the answer is not unquestionably you, you’re failing as a man.  Masculinity begets leadership.  Masculinity IS leadership.  Man was born to lead.  This is his purpose, his duty, and where he finds fulfillment.   Men, it is your job to lead your family.  It is not your wife’s. Continue reading “Who Wears The Pants? 10 Ways Men Must Lead Their Families”

5 Things You MUST Do To Quit Porn

Porn addiction is real. There’s no denying this. People may argue whether or not it’s moral, but you cannot argue that it has a devastating effect on society, young men in particular. According to Covenant Eyes, 63% of 18-30 year olds watch porn multiple times a week and 79% view porn at least once a month.Continue reading “5 Things You MUST Do To Quit Porn”

Is Masturbation Ok?

Hardly a day goes by when I do not receive a message or an email from someone asking something like this, “I have gone X days without watching porn, but I still masturbate regularly.  Is that ok?” Is masturbation without porn ok? Unfortunately, there isn’t really a simple yes or no answer to that question. Continue reading “Is Masturbation Ok?”

How Your Company Affects Your Character

Have you ever noticed how your mood or motivation changes depending upon who you’re around at that moment? In one sense, you could feel down and sorry about yourself, and if you come into contact with the right person, they can quickly have you feel like you can take on the whole world. In anotherContinue reading “How Your Company Affects Your Character”

Small Victories in a Larger War

The anti-porn movement won two major victories in the last few days. First, last Thursday, Mastercard and Visa announced they will stop allowing their cards to be used on Pornhub due to the website hosting videos of child abuse and rape.  Discover quickly followed suit. http://www.nytimes.com/visa-mastercard-block-pornhub This could potentially cause some financial problems for PornhubContinue reading “Small Victories in a Larger War”

Don’t Be A Frog In Water

There’s a lab experiment often told, where a frog is placed in water heating at the rate of .0036 of a degree Fahrenheit per second and, although it never moves, at the end of two and a half hours, the frog is found to be dead.  The explanation is that the water is heated soContinue reading “Don’t Be A Frog In Water”

Does Porn Make Me A Bad Man?

Porn makes you feel a lot of things. It makes you feel good.  It gets you excited.  It allows you to escape from the stresses of life.  These “good” things only last a short time. Porn also makes you feel shame, regret, and disgust.  It leads to depression, increased (not decreased) stress, and overwhelming guilt.Continue reading “Does Porn Make Me A Bad Man?”