What is the Price of Porn?

What is the Price of Porn?

In most cases today, it’s free.  Anyone with an internet connection can log on and find hardcore porn in seconds.  The days of paying for a magazine, renting a movie, or going to an adult theater are long over.  Porn is Free.

Or is it?

Porn has a much higher cost than simply the price to view it.  

Porn addiction, sex addiction, or any other addiction for that matter, will end up costing you much more than money.  

I hear it said all the time, “Watching porn doesn’t hurt anyone, so who cares if I watch it?”  Ask the girl who’s sex trafficked if it doesn’t hurt anyone. Ask the wife and kids of a porn addict if it doesn’t hurt anyone. Ask a man who’s lost everything he loves if it doesn’t hurt anyone.

Porn is not free.  There is a cost.  There is a price every man who falls prey to porn addiction must pay.

Let’s talk about what the true price of porn is.

The Financial Price

Stop and think for a minute.  How much money have you spent on your addiction to porn and sex?  Sure, PornHub may be free, but are you so hooked that you pay for premium or have other subscriptions?  Are you dropping tips on OnlyFans?  Are you on Sugar Daddy sites?  Have you paid for escorts, massage parlors, or strip clubs?  Dinners, hotels, gas, etc. all add up.  

I shudder to think about the amount of money I spent on my addiction.  To be completely honest, I have no idea, and I’m glad I don’t because the amount would be devastating. 

It’s not only the amount you spent on porn, it’s the amount you’ve lost.  What opportunities have you missed out on because you were engulfed in porn? 

I know many men who have lost their jobs because they got caught with porn at work.  Then what?  How are you going to provide for your family without a job?

Porn will destroy your wallet.  Don’t let it.

The Emotional Price

There is also an emotional price for porn.  I say all the time, “Porn addiction isn’t about pleasure. Porn addiction is about pain.” 

You’re using porn to escape from an emotional wound.  You’re not hornier, you don’t have a higher sex drive.  You’re using it as a bandaid to deal with some damage that you’re not able to face or cope with.  Somewhere along the line, usually in our adolescent years, we learned that we could use porn and sex to escape the problems in our lives.  Now we’ve learned to sexualize that pain.  

But porn doesn’t heal the pain.  It only makes it worse.  It promises pleasure, relief, and escape.  And sure, it feels good for a while, but eventually you cycle back to exactly where you were before.  Only now you’re full of shame, regret, and disgust, and the pain is still just as bad as it was before.  

You think porn reduces your stress.  In reality it makes it worse.  It leads to heightened anxiety and depression..  You feel angry that you’re stuck in this cycle.  You feel loneliness because you thought it would provide you the intimacy you’re really looking for, but it was actually just a complete lie.  Porn is a lie.  

The emotional price of porn is high.  It will hurt your heart more than anything else.

The Relationship Price

Porn is a destroyer of relationships. It breaks up marriages, it ends friendships, it isolates men.  

According to Covenant Eyes, a porn blocking software that I highly recommend, Porn use is cited in 56% of divorces.  

My porn addiction nearly ended my marriage, and I know it has ended many others.  It’s a betrayal of trust at best, and at worst, it is cheating on your spouse.  

How is your wife going to feel loved, appreciated, and desired when you’re spending all your nights watching other women online?  I’ve said it before and I’ll say it again, “Sexless marriages don’t cause porn addiction.  Porn addiction causes sexless marriages.”

But porn doesn’t only destroy marriages, it destroys all types of relationships.  I lost two best friends because they tried to help me with my addiction and I didn’t listen.  I lied to them like I lied to my wife.  Eventually, they gave up on me.  

Porn destroys relationships.  Is that a price you’re willing to pay?

The Time Price

Porn costs time.  Every minute spent on porn is a minute wasted.  What did it get you?  What did that time spent accomplish?  A few seconds of euphoria and pleasure?  Was it worth it? 

Ask any man after they’ve finished watching porn if that time spent was worth it.  Every one will say no.  

Many men spend hours a day watching porn or communicating with women online, or chasing the next hookup or escort.  I’m sure I’ve wasted years of my life on my addiction.  I lost sleep.  I lost time I could have used doing something productive.  I’ve lost time that I will never get back.

The price isn’t just the time spent, it’s the time lost.  I wasted years on my addiction that I could have spent with my family and children.  I lost hours and hours of time I should have spent with them that I spent watching porn or chasing sex.  Their youth is gone and I missed much of it.  You have no idea how much money I would spend to have that time back again.  It breaks my heart to think of the damage I caused by not being a present father and husband.

Porn costs time. A Lot of it.  And you’ll never get it back.  

The Ultimate Price

Porn addiction can get so bad that it ultimately ends up costing you everything.  No, you can’t overdose on porn, but that doesn’t mean it can’t destroy your life.  

Addiction kills.  I recently lost a family member to alcohol addiction.  I can’t begin to tell you how many drug overdoses I have dealt with at my day job as a funeral director.  Addiction, left untreated, will kill you one way or the other.

Sadly, men have felt so trapped by their addiction, that it cost them the ultimate price, their lives.  Suicides related to porn addiction have been on the rise among men.  Suicide rates among former porn actors, male and female, are staggering.  

Many of the men I coach have expressed suicidal thoughts to me.  They feel so trapped and like they’ll never escape, that sometimes the only option seems to end it all.  Others have lost their marriages, families, and careers to their addiction and don’t see the point in going on.

You may think porn is just a bad habit.  I can assure it’s not.  I can cost you everything.

There is a price you pay for porn.  How much are you willing to spend?

Will you let porn cost you thousands of dollars? Will you wreck your emotional and mental state for it?  Will you waste hours and hours of time watching it? Will you demolish every relationship you have?  Will you let porn destroy everything?

Porn is not free.  Porn is not cheap.  The price is high. The cost could be everything that you hold dear.

It is not worth it.  Don’t pay it.  Break free now before it does cost you everything.  

If you’re fighting this battle and need help, I’m here for you.  I work one on one with men every day to help them break free from the chains of porn addiction.  I will help you dig deep to discover the true cause of the addiction and create a plan to fight back and finally find freedom.  Please don’t hesitate to contact me at timothy@intothewildernessblog.com or Direct Message me on Twitter if one-on-one coaching could help in your battle to live Porn Free.

You can do this brother.  You don’t have to pay the price.  You can Live Porn Free.

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