Stop Believing These 10 Lies About Porn

Lies and deception are everywhere in today’s world.   We believe many lies about health, politics, religion, love, and more.  Lies are spread to advance an agenda.  Lies are told to keep the truth from being known.  Lies are spread to justify bad behavior. I can think of few places where more lies are spread thanContinue reading “Stop Believing These 10 Lies About Porn”

What Are You REALLY Addicted To?

We use the term “Addiction” a lot these days.  In fact, we probably over-use the term.   In many ways, we’ve degraded the seriousness of addiction by using it to describe things that aren’t really an addiction.  “I’m addicted to chocolate.” I’m addicted to this TV show.”  There’s even the classic, yet cringy, song “Addicted ToContinue reading “What Are You REALLY Addicted To?”

Who Is Your Nathan?

Who Is Your Nathan? Many of us are familiar with the story of King David and Bathsheba.   In the account described in the Bible, King David saw Bathsheba bathing on a roof and was immediately filled with intense lust for her.  He committed adultery with her knowing that she was married.  When she became pregnant,Continue reading “Who Is Your Nathan?”

Do You Have Perseverance?

Do you have perseverance? Do you have what it takes to keep going no matter how hard, how far, or how painful? The sad news is that many men today are mentally weak.  Far too often, men give up at the first sign of difficulty.  Instead of fighting through the hardship, they surrender and admitContinue reading “Do You Have Perseverance?”

Cleaning Up My Own Mess

Throughout my addiction, I always tried to deflect blame for my actions.  I would blame my acting out on stress and anxiety.  I would blame my wife for the slightest errors and use them as justification for my actions.  I would blame God for making me this way.  I would blame society for being soContinue reading “Cleaning Up My Own Mess”

Restoring Trust After Porn Addiction

One of the most damaging effects of porn addiction is the destruction of trust it causes in relationships. While I do not believe that Porn Addiction itself rises to the level of Adultery or Cheating, it does break the trust established and leads to feelings of betrayal.   Wives are often left feeling broken, hurt,Continue reading “Restoring Trust After Porn Addiction”

Progress Over Perfection

There’s one phrase that I repeat over and over again to the men that I coach.   “Two steps forward, one step back, is still moving forward.” The point is that just because you might be falling short sometimes, doesn’t mean you aren’t making progress.   If you’re fighting, if you’re working hard, if you’re determined,Continue reading “Progress Over Perfection”

Is Adultery Forgivable?

Marriage and long term relationships always have their ups and downs.  Any one who has been in one for any length of time can tell you there will be actions you have to forgive the other partner for and you’re going to have to be willing to accept imperfections about them. But is there anythingContinue reading “Is Adultery Forgivable?”

5 Things You MUST Do To Quit Porn

Porn addiction is real. There’s no denying this. People may argue whether or not it’s moral, but you cannot argue that it has a devastating effect on society, young men in particular. According to Covenant Eyes, 63% of 18-30 year olds watch porn multiple times a week and 79% view porn at least once a month.Continue reading “5 Things You MUST Do To Quit Porn”

Is Masturbation Ok?

Hardly a day goes by when I do not receive a message or an email from someone asking something like this, “I have gone X days without watching porn, but I still masturbate regularly.  Is that ok?” Is masturbation without porn ok? Unfortunately, there isn’t really a simple yes or no answer to that question. Continue reading “Is Masturbation Ok?”