Is Porn A Gateway Drug?

Looking back on the many years that I battled with sexual addiction, I sometimes wonder, ”Where did it all begin?”

Was there some traumatic event that sparked it?  When was I first exposed to sexual sin? What got me hooked?

The answer is porn. 

It may have started innocently enough.  I was a hormonal, curious teenager. What teenage boy isn’t?  But I wish I knew then where it would lead me. I didn’t go from being a curious teenager to a compulsive sex addict by chance.  Porn led me there.

So that begs the question;

Is porn a gateway drug?

Absolutely.

Tell me if this scenario sounds familiar:  (I’ll warn you, this gets dark)

It started with just nudes.  Maybe it was a Playboy a relative had.  Or maybe you came across nudes online. Then it went to watching hardcore sex.  Then that wasn’t enough and you started watching kinkier and kinker sex. Then threesomes and orgies.  Then off the wall stuff.  

Eventually, watching porn wasn’t enough.  You desensitized yourself by watching so much porn that it no longer did it for you.  

So you joined chat rooms or webcam sites.  The excitement of talking to a real person on the other end of the internet was intoxicating.  Until it wasn’t.  

So you moved on to dating sites.  The fantasy of actually meeting up with someone was intense!  You’re nervous, you know it’s wrong, but you walk into the bar to meet the girl anyway.  You gave her a fake name and the bar is two towns over because you don’t want to risk running into someone you know. You get to flirting, drinks are flowing, this is exciting.  It’s like you’re a kid again!  

You go back to her place and have sex. It was amazing. It was like losing your virginity all over again.  

But that drive back home was miserable.  You felt guilty. You felt shameful. How could this happen?  How did I get to this point? 

You beat yourself up for days.  You said that’s enough, you’ll never do that again and you threw away or deleted all your porn.  You deleted all the apps and online accounts. You promised you were going to live clean.  

Three days later, you’re right back at it again.  

Now it’s years later. You’re still in the same cycle. You’ve spent thousands of dollars. You may have destroyed your marriage. You’ve had major consequences to your actions but still can’t find freedom. Maybe you even went beyond hookups and went to sex clubs or massage parlors. You went so far as to hire escorts for sex and participated in orgies and threesomes.

You don’t even recognize yourself anymore.  What the hell happened? How could it ever get that bad?  

Many wives and other people affected by the actions of a sex addict often ask how they could do such terrible things.  How could a husband and father risk everything just for a few moments of pleasure?

Because sex addiction is a drug addiction.  We aren’t addicted to the sex or the porn itself.  We’re addicted to the dopamine rush that it provides.  

Instead of dealing with inner emotional wounds and trauma, we seek the quick fix of pleasure from the dopamine rush we get when we look at porn or have sex.  Like any drug, we eventually need more and more of it to achieve the same high.  

This is what leads you down the road from simply looking at nudes online, to engaging in high-risk deviant sexual behavior.  You need more and more of the drug and you’ll go to extreme lengths to get it.  

Now, not every man goes down this vicious spiral.  But many have, including me. What started as just a horny teenager turned into a grown man living a double life of extreme sexual behavior.  

There is a laboratory experiment in which a frog is placed in water heating at the rate of .0036 of a degree Fahrenheit per second and in which, although it never moves, at the end of two and a half hours, the frog is found to be dead. The explanation for this is that the water is heated so gradually that the frog never becomes aware of the rising temperature and is boiled to death without a struggle. If you were to drop him suddenly into hot water, he would splash it all over the place and probably be able to jump out.

That is what has happened to many men.  If you had dropped me into a sexual situation years ago, I would have jumped right out of there.  But instead, the temperature of the porn I was consuming gradually increased until I was fully overtaken by the addiction.  

That is why porn is a gateway drug. 

It may seem innocent.  It may seem just like a bad habit.  But it’s not. It is the springboard for many types of sinful sexual behavior.  It has ended relationships, destroyed marriages, and ruined families.  

Porn is a silent cancer that slowly boils men alive.  

It almost ruined my marriage, my family, and my life.  

By the grace of God, I found healing and overcame the bonds of sexual addiction that started with porn.  

You can too.  

Contact me for help if you’re struggling.  You are not alone. I’m here to help. There are many resources available to help you fight this battle.  Do not suffer in silence. 

Let’s go “Into The Wilderness” together to face ourselves and overcome the chains that bind us. 


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