What Are You REALLY Addicted To?

We use the term “Addiction” a lot these days.  In fact, we probably over-use the term.   In many ways, we’ve degraded the seriousness of addiction by using it to describe things that aren’t really an addiction.  “I’m addicted to chocolate.” I’m addicted to this TV show.”  There’s even the classic, yet cringy, song “Addicted ToContinue reading “What Are You REALLY Addicted To?”

Do You Have Perseverance?

Do you have perseverance? Do you have what it takes to keep going no matter how hard, how far, or how painful? The sad news is that many men today are mentally weak.  Far too often, men give up at the first sign of difficulty.  Instead of fighting through the hardship, they surrender and admitContinue reading “Do You Have Perseverance?”

Cleaning Up My Own Mess

Throughout my addiction, I always tried to deflect blame for my actions.  I would blame my acting out on stress and anxiety.  I would blame my wife for the slightest errors and use them as justification for my actions.  I would blame God for making me this way.  I would blame society for being soContinue reading “Cleaning Up My Own Mess”

Restoring Trust After Porn Addiction

One of the most damaging effects of porn addiction is the destruction of trust it causes in relationships. While I do not believe that Porn Addiction itself rises to the level of Adultery or Cheating, it does break the trust established and leads to feelings of betrayal.   Wives are often left feeling broken, hurt,Continue reading “Restoring Trust After Porn Addiction”

Progress Over Perfection

There’s one phrase that I repeat over and over again to the men that I coach.   “Two steps forward, one step back, is still moving forward.” The point is that just because you might be falling short sometimes, doesn’t mean you aren’t making progress.   If you’re fighting, if you’re working hard, if you’re determined,Continue reading “Progress Over Perfection”

Is Adultery Forgivable?

Marriage and long term relationships always have their ups and downs.  Any one who has been in one for any length of time can tell you there will be actions you have to forgive the other partner for and you’re going to have to be willing to accept imperfections about them. But is there anythingContinue reading “Is Adultery Forgivable?”

Who Wears The Pants? 10 Ways Men Must Lead Their Families

Who “wears the pants” in your family? If the answer is not unquestionably you, you’re failing as a man.  Masculinity begets leadership.  Masculinity IS leadership.  Man was born to lead.  This is his purpose, his duty, and where he finds fulfillment.   Men, it is your job to lead your family.  It is not your wife’s. Continue reading “Who Wears The Pants? 10 Ways Men Must Lead Their Families”

Does Porn Make Me A Bad Man?

Porn makes you feel a lot of things. It makes you feel good.  It gets you excited.  It allows you to escape from the stresses of life.  These “good” things only last a short time. Porn also makes you feel shame, regret, and disgust.  It leads to depression, increased (not decreased) stress, and overwhelming guilt.Continue reading “Does Porn Make Me A Bad Man?”

Can My Marriage Be Saved After Porn?

Porn Addiction has devastating effects.   It destroys health, families, careers, and marriages. But it doesn’t have to. If you or your spouse has battled porn, you may ask, “Can my marriage be saved after porn addiction? YES! I’m living proof. My addiction to porn and sex almost destroyed my marriage. I was unfaithful to myContinue reading “Can My Marriage Be Saved After Porn?”

Are You a Man, or a Man-Child?

In today’s world, it seems like there are fewer and fewer true men and more and more man-children. What do I mean by a man-child? A man-child is someone who is an adult by age, but not in maturity.  He could be 25, 30, or even 40 years old.  He could be married, have children,Continue reading “Are You a Man, or a Man-Child?”